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Help! I've Made A Mess In His Bed

Help! I've Made A Mess In His Bed

Dear Sugar
My boyfriend and I have been together for about three months. We get along great and talk about everything, but I still consider our relationship to be pretty new. I spend the night at his apartment quite a bit because I want to be with him, but he's very particular about sleeping in his own bed.

The other night I woke up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom and I realized I had gotten my monthly visitor early. I was horrified actually. I realized it was all over my pajama bottoms...and it was all over his sheets! I was so embarrassed and I had no idea what to do. Luckily he had an early morning flight so I was able to hide the stain while he got packed and ready.

Not only did I stain his sheets, but my mess went all the way through to his brand new mattress. If I can't get out the stains I am going to have to tell him. How do I save face while fessing up to leaving an utter mess in his bed? Do you have any advice for fixing this problem I created? Confessing Cassie

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Dear Confessing Cassie
Sounds like you got yourself into a little bit of a jam. I would take his sheets to the dry cleaners immediately and hopefully they can work some magic. Worst case scenario, buy him a new set of sheets before he returns from his trip. Clean the mattress as soon as possible as fresh stains are easier to remove.

First, try mixing mild laundry detergent with warm water, make sure there are suds, and rub the mattress with a sponge. An interesting known home remedy for removing blood is using your own saliva. If neither of those concoctions do the trick, try using hydrogen peroxide. Soak a towel with the peroxide and blot the stain until the towel won't absorb anymore blood. Keep in mind that the peroxide may stain the mattress so make sure to mix it with plenty of water.

If these methods still won't fix the ick, you're unfortunately going to have to tell your boyfriend about it. Try and remember that this was just an accident, so please don't be so hard on yourself. Hopefully he won't be too upset and understands that this kind of thing happens to women from time to time. Who knows, you might just be able to laugh about it months from now.

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salleee salleee 10 years
i've tried this method on a mattress but is was with puke..worked really well... Saturate with vinegar and blot until no more of the stain can be removed. Cover the area with baking soda to neutralize the odor, and leave overnight. In the morning vacuum the powder from the mattress. walla! all gone!
gossipqueen gossipqueen 10 years
OXYCLEAN!! I don't know where you are or if you have it..but if you know what i'm talking about that thing cleans EVERYTHING!!! p.s. and is not bleach!
Imabeliever Imabeliever 10 years
You can have the mattress cleaned by a carpet/upholstery company if it really is a big deal to you. It should cost like 75.99 or something to that effect.
karmasabitch karmasabitch 10 years
This happened to me before on an expensive bed and expensive sheets. I was embarrassed and felt bad about it because he loves his bed, but I just told him the truth. His response was don't worry about it, throw em out and we'll change the sheets.. end of story. If he's a good guy then it shouldn't even be an issue. It happens every once in a while, it was an accident, there's nothing you can do about it. If he has a problem then tell him go stuff it and leave.
reeeeka reeeeka 10 years
I've had this happen and it wasn't from getting my period it was while we got intimate. It soaked through the sheets into the actual bed. As soon as it happened we threw the sheets in the bed and I had my tide stick handy! lol I used the tide stick on the bed and it actually lightened it ALOT. Maybe you could do something similar? Also, try oxyclean?? make a solution with it and rub it into the stain...that might help.
ArmyWifey ArmyWifey 10 years
Honesty is the best policy here. Just be honest with him. If he can't handle it, then what are you stressing over him for anyways? Life is full of these moments, and if he can't handle them I would seriously think about whether or not this guy is worth it. Offer to take him out and get new sheets, I mean what else are you going to do? He knew why you were in his bed to begin with, and he was fine with it. Army Wifey For Lifey
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 10 years
If you can't clean it, just flip it and forget about it. Most guys don't realize they should flip the mattress from time to time anyway. And if he finds out and freaks out, than he's an idiot and you should move on.
rkdub rkdub 10 years
Dyson has a carpet cleaner spray stuff that works fabulously as well.... it's in like a hairspray type bottle and is amazing.... my puppy went into heat for the first time a few months ago (she got fixed the next week!!!!) and bled all up and down the stairs, etc etc and the Dyson stuff was amazing... one spray, blot with a paper towel and viola! no more mess!
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
Oxy clean the mattress and flip it. He will live. By the time he flips the mattress and notices you can act like you dont even know. somethings are better off unsaid. Oh and resolve carpet cleaner makes a spot cleaner. One half is resolve the other is oxy clean. they mix when you squirt it out over the stain let it sit and soak it up. WORKS Great! Its gotten rid of grape jelly stains and chocolate stain in my carpet. And Im sure will work on a mattress -------------------- -------------------- Watch us play secret santa, and every tuesday fab find for our wishlist!
rosyposy rosyposy 10 years
The less freaked out you get by it the more he will realise that it IS a normal function of life. I believe it is only a fear of the unknown that freaks them out, because for god's sake it is only blood
nycgirl nycgirl 10 years
Pattyo, that is a great idea, and actually true for me. I am on the pill, but sometimes my period just won't come! And sex does provoke it. But good luck on the scrubbing!
pattyo pattyo 10 years
Use some peroxide....not alot (directly on the mattress....then with warm water with a wash cloth scrub the area. (place a towel over it afer cleaning so it will soak up the water. As far as the sheets go....soak them in cold water all day. If you don't have time to do that. Wash use stain guard with 409..yes 409 along with oxy wash...that should do it. If you had sex that night...just tell him because of how good it made you start early. LOL :)
colormesticky colormesticky 10 years
Oxy Clean is great, or there's an oxygen carpet cleaner with a blue label in a spray bottle you can buy at Petco. I had to use that when my sister's dog went into heat and made a mess all over my carpet, couch, and a blanket. As soon as I sprayed it the stains disappeared. I just had to dry it with a towel.
honey31 honey31 10 years
Grreat ideas ladies!I like the idea of flipping the mattress over hehe.
caroline_1 caroline_1 10 years
Cool water-- not warm or hot, and oxyclean. Oxyclean has saved my life time and time again.
Vsugar Vsugar 10 years
Yes - PEROXIDE!! Definitely works. I agree that they shouldn't be so grossed out by it, HONESTLY. I once had a boyfriend who made a big deal about me getting an ITTY BITTY TINY amount of blood on a sheet, and I felt like I was about an inch tall, and was afraid he was going to dump me over it. Fortunately, after about an hour, I realised that his reaction informed a LOT about his character, and that he wasn't the kind of person I wanted to be with, so I dumped HIM!! Ha ha. Anyway, you don't really have anything to APOLOGIZE for, I mean, it's normal and you are a healthy, alive young woman, BUT, even if he does find out, you showing that you took steps to be responsible and respecful of his things and space says a lot about YOUR character, and if he doesn't appreciate that, then UNLOAD him! =)
SeptemberLights SeptemberLights 10 years
Lucky Libra ive had to deal with this plenty of times. warm water will just set in a blood stain. if you use COLD water immidiatley after it will wash right out. Peroxide will work too.
laura_j laura_j 10 years
oh man, my friend and i went to someones house after the bar once, she ended up sleeping with one of the guys and got her monthly visitor all over the sheets. when she realized, she sent the guy to the bathroom claiming he needed to kill a spider and ripped the fitted sheet off the bed, tucked the flat one under the mattress and was like, alright, see ya! she tried to wake me up, and got mad and walked to the 7-11 by herself. when i finally woke up i drove around looking for her, and there she was behind the 7-11 stuffing the sheet thru a crack in a dumpster. luckily we have never seen that one particular guy again. honey, my point is, you could have it much worse. just make sure to scrub the daylights out of it, and worst case scenario, if you have to fess up, im sure if you have a good relationship thus far, it wont affect much. good luck! dont let it stress you out! it happens..
Pokemyhontas Pokemyhontas 10 years
I have horrible monthlies and have accidents sometimes. Peroxide will do the trick! I pour it on the stain and let it sit for a couple sec's and then take a folded towel, place it over the stain and absorb the excess. Repeat if needed until the stain is gone.
Froggee285 Froggee285 10 years
Why are men so icked out by the period. If we didn't get one THEY wouldn't even exist.My boyfriend is very grossed out by it, always makes a face (while my ex was cool with it and wanted me to tell him all the details...sigh, which one is worse?) Anyway, I would wash the sheets and take them to a dry cleaner if the stain didn't come out. If the stain is still there, just buy him new sheets. I highly doubt he has an emotional attachement to them. (Or maybe get the same sheets, like, the same style, from the store!) I would really try to get the stain from the mattress, maybe call the company and see if they have any tips on how to get stains out. And alas, if it won't come out, just flip the mattress. (They always say to flip the mattress every few months anyway!) Call me a horrible, deceitful person, go ahead, but I know how MY boyfriend would react (grossed out look on his face, wouldn't want to be near the bed, would want to use bleach) so I would hide it.
madame_emt madame_emt 10 years
Wow. This happened to me on Wednesday... I soaked through my boyfriend's feather bed, and the dry cleaners wouldn't even try to clean it for me. =(
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