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This or That: His Ex or Yours?

You’ve stayed at your boyfriend’s place the past few days, and it’s taken a toll on your usual cute appearance. You haven’t had your hair products or your makeup, and you’ve run out of clean clothes. Your hair is frizzing, and you’re wearing a pair of stretched out jeans, your boyfriend’s t-shirt, and flip flops. (Luckily, he doesn’t care.) You guys decide to grab a quick bite to eat, but you kick yourself when you're surprised by an unexpected encounter. Would it be worse if you guys ran into …

This: His ex-girlfriend, the gorgeous one from all the pictures who broke his heart, and she’s looking, well, picture perfect? You try to give her your most confident handshake, but then you remember your ensemble.

Or …

That: Your ex-boyfriend who ended things with you because you just weren’t the one? Of course you’re over him, but you’ve been dying to run into him to prove that you’re doing better than ever — it would probably help if you looked better than ever.

Neither are how you envisioned, but which encounter is worse?


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picturemeurs picturemeurs 7 years
My ex, definately, gosh who cares what he thinks, but I'd save him ( current bf ) the embarrassment and not have her say he couldn't do better.
Meike Meike 9 years
Well, his ex is, well, ugly. A bit rude of me to say that but there is no contest. I look better than her on my worst day and her best day.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I care more about what men think of me than women (that sounds horrible I know). I know women are catty and even if you looked gorgeous she's still going to find a flaw and tell her friends about that. You know she won't say that you're gorgeous and perfect. I would want my ex to always wonder about the one who got away and this encounter would kinda ruin that for me.
cjmara805 cjmara805 9 years
I always feel worse when an ex has a really ugly new girlfriend. Feels like he has really low standards.
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
I'd rather running into my ex- even if I look crap, I'm still running into him when I'm with a hot new guy. Plus he would have already seen me looking less than perfect. Running into his ex just gives her ammunition to bitch about to her friends.
laurenautomatic laurenautomatic 9 years
I would rather run into his ex definitely; just the fact that he is comfortable with me enough to be out with me dressed like that would hopefully prove to her that he really loves me!
LadyLibertine LadyLibertine 9 years
i would say his, but not for me but what most would say, your ex knows you most likely at best and worst while she does not so thus there is that awkward only seeing you at your well not best
clumsymelissa clumsymelissa 9 years
His EX. She would probably recognize the shirt, since she probably bought it! All she would be thinking is "that bitch is wearing my shirt!". And definitely apologize for the way I look, "Sorry, we just rolled out of bed and put something on, you know how it is."
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
I would rather see my ex. He has already seen me at my worst prob!
emalove emalove 9 years
Honestly, neither would really bother me. I've run into my exes before and I usally just pretend they're not there. I know my husband would do the same. We just don't care about that stuff...the past is the past!
missceego0711 missceego0711 9 years
I rather run into my ex.
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
Well since my bf and I have successfully now run into all of my exs (minus one that lives in another state), the awkwardness is over, so I'm going to go with MY ex. I'd probably fall over if we ran into one of his exes. I try to pretend they don't exist.
ilanac13 ilanac13 9 years
i would rather run into my ex than his because i feel like my ex would see that i'm super comfortable being with my man that i don't have to dress up and put on a show nd that he loves me the way that i am. it's different with girls. we always want to look better than the other woman, and if she's looking amazing and i look like i just rolled out of bed, that's just not going to bode well for me - even if my boy loves how i look.
snarkypants snarkypants 9 years
haha juicy, the picture freaks me out too =) i would def rather run into his ex, cuz that girl ain't got nothing on me! haha.
juicylove juicylove 9 years
i didnt read the article yet but.. that picture is...just sooo weird!!! it looks like her arms are like photoshopped in arms. :$ sorry. but to answer the question.. my ex, he would already know that im not that hideous normally, the other girl would probably just be like :|. but i also would never wear a mans shirt in public, even if it is just for a second.
MiyabiNa MiyabiNa 9 years
I would rather run into my ex. He's seen me at my worst and I'm comfortable around him... It would REALLY suck to run into his ex like that, because I wanna show the bitch what she lost...and if I look like crap...she'll take me as a joke and get that bitchy notion that "he can't find anyone better than her". (and tell all her friends)=P blaaaah the WORST.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
Oh, and my boyfriend's ex lives in another state. It's only time before we run into my ex.
javsmav javsmav 9 years
I'd rather run into HIS ex. I mean, sure I'd rather be fabulous in front of her, too, but I don't care too much about what some stranger thinks. Especially if she is supposedly "picture perfect" I doubt I could compare to that even if I went all out. But my ex hurt me so bad that I want him to have nothing but regret. I doubt I'll ever run into him again b/c he lives several states away, but if I do I want to look amazing.
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
even at my worse, i'll still look better and put together than any of my exes ... so bring on my old exes. now his ex ... i would just run away and hide.
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i'd rather run into my ex! at least he knows i have some ability to look, it's enough that you're out with your new bf to rub it in his face. with his ex she will assume you always look this way and will take satisfaction in the fact that she's better looking
Merlin713 Merlin713 9 years
Yeah I'd rather run into my ex. Of course if he tried to do anything he'd be in violation of the TRO. haha.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I'd rather run into my ex. I wouldn't care. I'm with a great guy and all he'd be looking at really was my new guy.
designerel designerel 9 years
same, i'd rather run into my ex. what cvan said is totally true-- they will be too busy sizing up your guy to notice a less than perfect appearance, while the ex-gf will judge every little detail.
LikeThoseShoes LikeThoseShoes 9 years
i'd rather run into MY ex... because then he can see just how GORGEOUS my new man is even if i didnt look great at the time. if it was HIS ex i KNOW she would tell everyone that he's with some scruffy chick. haha
cvandoorn cvandoorn 9 years
Yup, definitely rather run into my ex. I don't care about the guy. Plus, they don't care how you look...all they see is the new guy in your life.
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