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His Flatulence Is Making Me Lose Focus In Bed

Dear Sugar
My live in boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. I love him, he loves me, we have a really healthy sex life, everything is on the right track. However, he's got this really disgusting habit that I can't seem to get past. He has recently begun to fart when he's climaxing during sex. Although this is a small price to pay for amazing and consistent love-making, I can't take it anymore!

At first, I thought, wow, that was kind of funny and really embarrassing, but then it kept happening over and over again. Not only is his flatulence problem gross, but it immediately distracts me during the act. He is very generous sexually and always want to please me, but his farting noises and smells makes me lose all my focus and I fear it will change our sex life. What can I do? Grossed out Gina

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Grossed out Gina
Ewww! What a nuisance, but I hate to break it to you, sex isn't always as glamorous as it may seem. We are used to seeing hot masculine bodies and beautiful women making love on the big screen, but that just isn't reality. Sometimes sex isn't perfect; it can be loud, sweaty, messy, etc...

Is your boyfriend aware of his flatulent behavior? Have you ever addressed it and asked him to hold it in during the act? Passing gas is totally normal, and as irritating as it might be, you might just have to have a good laugh about it and literally, let it go! Let your mind wander to help keep your concentration and try not to let it interfere if that's possible.

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herbiefrog herbiefrog 10 years
...yeah... sorry bout that :) lol : )) you guys are funny biology... way lower in any sort of maslov heirarchy
gossipqueen gossipqueen 10 years
Have you asked him WHY he does it??? LOL...is funny/weird/gross!
Vsugar Vsugar 10 years
I asked my male partner (to whom this has also happened during sex, but not while climaxing), and he says to suck it up, and watch The Family Guy. I have to say, it doesn't really bother me, because I have just come to accept it as the reality of sharing one's life with a man, but I can see how it could be distracting during the critical moment. Maybe he is trying to hold it in during the rest of the time and then just can't anymore?? Maybe if he could let it go earlier it would be so distracting?? Good luck - but if you think you are going to find a man who doesn't fart, then you are crazy.
Moni-B Moni-B 10 years
Or maybe have him go to the bathroom before you do the deed. I don't know how you can convince him to do such a thing, maybe other than "wait, I have to go to the bathroom" and he might give it a thought and do the same. It might not be a flatulance problem, he probably holds the gas in before hand and then at the moment of intensity he looses all ability to control himself and body functions. ~M~
getstinko getstinko 10 years
you should discuss it with him, examine his diet and consider the beano suggestion. farting in bed is a buzzkill and he's certainly aware of it so you should try and help him resolve it. be careful about making him too self conscious about it but it's definitely something you should stand firm on trying to resolve. one or two farts in bed is acceptable, farting everytime he climaxes or multiple times in bed is nasty and not funny.
Toronado Toronado 10 years
Don't mention it, BB :)
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 10 years
Tor, you did it again, I'm laughing so hard, I'm crying..thanks, I needed that! :ROTFL:
Toronado Toronado 10 years
Just ram the Hoover hose up his butt and vacuum all the farts out before you have sex.
DearSugar DearSugar 10 years
This is pretty embarrassing I must say. At least he feels comfortable around you. Would youe ever fart back?
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
But stick a cork in it is funny lol -------------------- -------------------- Watch us play secret santa, and every tuesday fab find for our wishlist!
Bunbunhun Bunbunhun 10 years
That's pretty funny (from an outsider's standpoint), but seriously, you should encourage him to talk to his doctor. I remember reading something about this a few years back, ony then it was the woman passing the gas, and the gist of the article was that there was an underlying medical cause for the excessive flatulence, that she was able to get treated by her doctor. (Wow, sorry about the run-on sentence there.) But anyway, it couldn't hurt, and probably will go over better than "Stick a cork in your a**, hon!" :)
la_clique la_clique 10 years
Ewww. Talk about a buzz kill! I would def pay attention to what he is eating and see if you can make some changes. Bean-o and gassx should help, but he might have an actual conditon. It has been 2years, it is def time to try to get that under control! I can guarantee that he will try to do something if you tell him it makes you NOT want to have sex!
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
Lol twink, OMG wow. NExt time you go to have sex just ask him to hold up a minute and then go grab a cork from a wine bottle and toss it to him. When he gives u that look be like dude u stink. Play with him but let him know. LMAO my man doesnt fart during thank lord but as soon as we are done he does and its just like OMG NASTY! But hes a man :SIGH: not much can be done really lol -------------------- -------------------- Watch us play secret santa, and every tuesday fab find for our wishlist!
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 10 years
:smelly: someone had to do it.
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 10 years
JessNess and Whip, thanks, I never knew spunk referred to well...that. I even saw that eppy of Sex in the City!! Thanks again, girls. :)
JessNess JessNess 10 years
Whiplash I never knew until last year that spunk was a dirty word. My guy friend and I was joking around and I said something to the affect that Im full of spunk as in personality. But he totally freaked out and told me to never say that again so I learned my lesson
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
:ROTFL: sorry, hahahahahahahahahaha, I feel for ya girl, that's straight up nasty, funny maybe the first time....but that's it! man I hope I my hus. never farts during orgasm...that would so freak me out, really bad! You need to tell him, (I'm still laughing, so ignore any typos)...if you don't tell him, he's gonna think it's okay to keep doin' it. , 2 years is a long time, you should be able to say, "dude, the sex is great and all, the best blah blah...but you've GOT to stop fartin' when you (you know), cause you're really freakin' me out with that! Do you not 'realize' you're fartin'? what's up with your booty?'....kinda make it into a joke like thing at first, but then stress it to him that it really does make you look at him differently when you think about sex with him lately.......I mean, cause what do us chicks do? we think about sex with our man!!! MOST of the time, y'all know it's true, don't even front...ha for me it's all the time with my hubby! :D (the thinking about it, haha) ...so when you think of your man and sex, ya don't wanna laugh and be disgusted all at the same time do ya?......so yeah, tell him!
nicachica nicachica 10 years
lol...i'll second the Bean-O suggestion.
peepshow peepshow 10 years
yuck. That's unfortunate. I would have to say something...
cubadog cubadog 10 years
It sounds like if it is recent it is something in his diet. How funny and gross at the same time!
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 10 years
SPM, your comment makes me think of the "funky spunk" episode of "Sex and the City," where Sam tries to make her new boyfriend eat health food to change the taste of his...you know, spunk.
JessNess JessNess 10 years
maybe give him a bean-o or gas-x before
SweetPeasMom SweetPeasMom 10 years
Take a look at his diet, is there any changes he could make that would maybe make it less likely to happen?
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 10 years
Oh, my God, did I write to DearSugar, then have an attack of amnesia, and forget about it? Well, thank God, my boyfriend doesn't fart while we're being - ahem - intimate. But there is a WHOLE lotta fartin' going on in general.
justjaime27 justjaime27 10 years
I'm laughing but I'm not..because that would suck! I'd talk to him about it, but try not to embarrass him. Or...here's an idea...get a big industrial fan...turn it on (they tend to be somewhat loud but in a soothing way...we have one to drown out the noise of the fire trucks since we live next to a fire station)and face it away from your face, but towards the end of the bed. That way, if it is a problem he can't fix, then the smell goes the other way and you won't be able to hear it! :) How's THAT for a good idea! :) And if he asks why the fan, then tell him it's because the sex gets so hot...you need one. Not only will it keep his noises & smells away from you, but it can also make you look model sexy with your hair blowing in the wind! :)
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