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Is Honesty Always The Best Policy?

Sometimes being honest can fall into the grey area. For example, is it alright to tell little white lies? Does it constitute a lie if you've decided to leave out a small detail to spare someone's feelings?

DEARSUGAR readers ...Do you think there are any morally acceptable lies?

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Adriana42 Adriana42 10 years
Definitely not. It all depends on the circumstances. In today's world it's about hte survival of the fittest and not many people appreciate honesty any more. But when it comes to the people you love and care about, your family and friends I'd say 100% honesty is the way to live a happy life.
AraiSwitz21 AraiSwitz21 10 years
Lying is very wrong! "Keep thy tongue from evil and speaking bad" Thats what the bible says about lying so its wrong no matter how it covers. Cash talk breaks no friendship so l'd rather you hurt because you know the truth!
3Sweeties 3Sweeties 10 years
This is super tricky... my son received a book from his cousin-which we promptly lost (hey- we have a lot of books) anyway, when the cousin wrote to ask if we liked it, I told my son to write back that we did. I didn't want to hurt the kids feelings, and I actually was excited to get the book in the mail, so I did like it though we never read b4 it was lost. So, am I a crappy Mom because I taught my so it is sometimes ok to lie, or a good Mom because I taught him that sometimes it is more important to spare feelings than to be completely honest...
jmac jmac 10 years
I'm somewhere between option C&D.
sweet-pea sweet-pea 10 years
I really dislike it when someone asks a question when they aren't looking for the honest answer, they're looking for the what-they-want-to-hear answer. Good for you for being honest, Pad.
Padraigin Padraigin 10 years
refusing to divulge information about your personal life is not lying. I will omit something from a conversation if I think that it will needlessly hurt someone, but that isn't lying either. My friends know not to ask me a direct question if they don't really want an honest answer. I had a friend ask what I thought of the guy she liked. Big mistake. Had she never asked, I would have never told her how I really felt about him and she would have discovered on her own, as she eventually did, that I was right. Of course, she blew me off after I spoke my mind and we've never been the same since. But I would never have lied and said I liked him.
foo_mf_foo foo_mf_foo 10 years
i agree with rocketgirl....
sanD13 sanD13 10 years
I don't lie but I've learned to be selective in who you tell everything to. I highly value trust and without that I wouldn't tell them anything. I'm very honest and my friends know that about me so they won't ask me things unless they really want my honest answer. So if they got a new haircut and it looks horrible, I just don't say anything. If they ask, I'll just say, "You've had better haircuts..."
StarGazer StarGazer 10 years
Yes - honesty is the best policy. I subscribe to that philosophy as much as possible however, I have found myself not being completely honest a time or two. You know - traffic was bad, I don't feel good, I mailed the payment two days ago, etc. The goofy thing is that it probably doesn't even really matter.
sweet-pea sweet-pea 10 years
I'm actually thinking of my Mr. Sweetpea's father here, lol. The man is sooo sexist, I find myself biting my tongue on a regular basis (like every time he opens his mouth). But, he's his Dad, he lives far away so I don't have to deal with it often, I'm not going to change anything by arguing, and it's not worth the fight!
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
Just now reading comments...Tor I totally agree with you. For the most part. Sweet pea, I completely agree with you.
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
lol, good point sweet got it girl.....that's when you just kinda pretend like you didn't hear em.....better than sayin' 'none of your business biotch'..........hehe
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
lol, I haven't been on much lately.....but if you could shorten it up by about 50 minutes......:)
sweet-pea sweet-pea 10 years
I think there is a big difference in most cases between a lie and an omission. I certainly don't share every detail of my private life with everyone, but I don't lie. I think there is also the social lie/omission- when you don't want to come right out and argue with someone about something so you do a lot of "hmmm" "well" "um-hmmm" instead of "no, you moron, this is how it really is!"
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 10 years
Oh gosh you have an hour????
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 10 years
And you can say it again!!! And again, and again...
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
gawd..........where at PPP?
Moongal Moongal 10 years
creepy creepy,is all i can say
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 10 years
That is yet to be determined...I personally think it was a "Tranny"...
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 10 years
TSA...Troll Squad Anonymous...
Moongal Moongal 10 years
and was or is she a he? because of all the sex talk she wanted to get out of everyone
Moongal Moongal 10 years
wow your kidding? how do you guys know?
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 10 years
Eyep, she sure does...
Moongal Moongal 10 years
does caligirl still lurk around here?
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
or is be a liar sucks..................?
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