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Are Honeymoon Registries Tacky?

You may know where you want to go on your honeymoon, but paying for it is not always as easy. Websites like let soon-to-be honeymooners request specific amounts for airfare, hotels, liquor — anything they can think of. I don't really see how it's any different than asking for money, or even a blender, but some taste testers say it's tacky.

Whether you're going on a relaxing or adventurous trip, would a honeymoon registry be too tacky for your good taste?

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postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
I agree with Anon 3. I think a lot of registries have gotten out of control. I am not buying you that $900 crystal vase, you butthole!
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
RoaringSilence - I agree, it's not the item on the registry that's tacky, but the expectation that you're somehow entitled to receive everything you ask for. I'm really baffled by all the people who say that wedding gifts are about "helping a couple launch their life." Yes, that was true in 1970. Maybe you all are just really young and/or got married by the age of 22, but it's a little presumptuous to assume that people need help "launching their life." I mean, God forbid a non-married woman go out and buy herself some hand towels and a blender. My boyfriend I are both 26, not yet engaged, and we both make decent livings as attorneys. As a result, we have pretty much every household item we need, and I'm not really looking forward to the day when I'm supposed to go out and register for duplicates of things I already own just because it's the only socially acceptable thing to do. And for the record, I personally don't plan on doing a honeymoon registry, I just think it's ridiculous that people are expected to register for things they already own and don't want or need.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 7 years
This is probably related to another article on here, where someone was complaining that they didn't receive everything they asked for on their registry. The tacky thing was not what was on their registry (which in their case was money), but the fact that they were greedy. When it comes to gifts, you should assume nothing, and be happy about anything you get on top of that.
theCatsPajamas theCatsPajamas 7 years
totally tacky! wedding gifts are about helping a couple launch their life together, not about sending them on vacation. a good registry should be a cheatsheet on the couples' tastes and needs, to offer suggestions to guests who may not know what to get-- it shouldn't be a christmas list of everything the couple ever wanted, practical or not. when did it become ok to shakedown your guests? also, registering for wii games? worse than tacky.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
A couple I knew did this, about 7 years ago. They went to Rome, and had all of these activities that you could "contribute" to, including just giving cash or paying for their airfare. I thought it was so tacky to do that, and actually mentioned it to other friends, who were horrified...they thought it was so inappropriate and presumptuous. Of course, I'm in my forties, and pay for my own trips, and my friends are my age, so different generation altogether. I didn't get a thank you note from the bride for almost a year. Never again.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
JennyJK - How is a honeymoon registry any different than a regular registry? You say that a honeymoon registry is like blatantly asking for money, but people don't give cash via the honeymoon registry. They give things like airline miles, a nice dinner, a bottle of champagne, and things like that. I know couples who have registered for Wii games on their wedding registry - I don't think that's any more of a necessity that a honeymoon-related item. I agree with Sundown, in that most people get married at an age where they already own kitchen appliances, towels, etc. I know one couple who registered at Neiman Marcus for household items, and then they took every single gift back and exchanged for a gift card with cash, so that they could buy themselves thousands of dollars worth of designer clothes instead. I would much rather people be up front about it and use a honeymoon registry so that I can at least give them a gift they can use. It's silly to insist on buying people household items they don't need merely because that's how it's been done in the past.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
I'm on the fence about this one. If you don't need anything to "start your life together", I don't see why you shouldn't just register for something you'd really like. If that's a honeymoon, so be it. However, it seems tacky, but I can't quite put my finger on why I feel that way. Possibly because it almost seems like begging for money...your family/friends are paying for a vacation, and...I don't know, its weird.
Blynnt Blynnt 7 years
Sundown - I completely agree. With so many couples living together (or at least on their own) pre-wedding and getting married later in life, it's much more likely that they will have most everything to fill their home (I also fall into this group). People always seem to want to give the couple a gift, so why not help them enjoy a fabulous trip. I just contributed to a registry on HoneyFund for a couple that my bf and I are very close with, so they could go on a dinner cruise in Hawaii that I know they are both very excited about. I'm happy to help them create a great memory of that cruise, and I can't wait to hear about it! I would definitely register (when the time comes) for honeymoon activities, as well as a few more interesting and special home items so anyone invited would feel comfortable with whatever they wanted to give. I don't see anything wrong with just giving the couple money either if you don't want to contribute directly to a honeymoon registry.
JennyJK JennyJK 7 years
As much as I wish they weren't tacky, they are. As anon said, registries are for gift-giving ideas for things the couple might need, if you choose to give a gift. In theory the couple isn't counting on receiving everything, you're giving it to them to help them out, and if they don't get something they need/want they'll buy it themselves. Blatantly asking for money as a gift, regardless of what you're going to do with it, is tacky.
Sundown321 Sundown321 7 years
I love this idea! I think regular registries are a little out dated. Most people don't get married and move out of their parents house. Some couples even have two of everything to start out. I'm 27, I don't see myself getting married any time soon, and I already have everything that would go on a registry. I would much rather get help going on a great honeymoon than get an updated set of steak knives!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
It's no more tacky than a regular registry. I'd still just give money though, probably.
limelindsey limelindsey 7 years
But I think all registries are kind of tacky....maybe it's just me, but it seems really presumptuous to pick out your presents in advance. Or to basically demand presents just because you're getting married.
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