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The How-To Lounge: Asking For Help

Although being independent is great, if you happen to have a stubborn streak, your determination may hinder you from reaching out for help when you need it. For whatever reason, asking for help has become synonymous with not being tough enough, but I’ll be the first to say, that’s just not true. So if you’re one of those girls who has to do everything herself, read my tips for how to reach out for help when you really do need it when you


  • Recognize that there’s nothing wrong with needing help. In fact, being able to acknowledge that you don’t know how to do something shows good judgment.
  • Try by yourself first, but know when to admit defeat. When you’re wasting time trying to do something that another person could have helped you accomplish already, then it’s time to reach out. You don’t want to wait until it’s too late.
  • Go out of your way to ask someone whom you feel comfortable with. Knowing that you won’t be judged for your question and that they won’t lead you astray can make all the difference in the world.
  • Make sure you know what you’re asking for. Most people are better at helping when they can advise on a specific problem.
  • And finally, once you make your big break and ask, don’t forget to say thank you.

Are you comfortable with asking for help?


Join The Conversation
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
I HATE asking for help. It makes me feel silly and incompetent. I'm one of those people who will try to do everything by herself and will only crumble when it's getting to be too much.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I know when to ask for help, and I will if I need/want it. But it is SO annoying when people don't let you be independent enough, sometimes people just need to leave me alone and let me do my thing. I've survived this long, I'm pretty sure I can keep doing it!! grrr! :/
jessie jessie 8 years
i have no problem asking for help....rather then sit there for hours trying to figure it out.... but i will NOT ask for help with my kids....i. just.can'
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I basically raised myself with my grandmother's help and am now raising my three children so for me to ask anyone for help for me is like speaking to an alien in his native tongue. When I finally have to it takes a monumental amount of mental build up. And I can usually talk myself out of it; if I'm lucky. :shrug:
havok636 havok636 8 years
my boyfriend gets mad at me for this all the time. i get mad when he tries to help me. :(
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