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The How-To Lounge: Conquering Bathroom Phobia

When you first start dating someone, conquering bathroom phobia takes some time, and since we have all been there, here are some tips to overcome your fear of going number two when your boyfriend's around. Click here to

  • If you're the type that hates to admit that you go number two, it's time go just get over it and accept the obvious — your boyfriend knows you do!
  • Choose your bathroom times wisely. If you typically get ready at his house, go to the bathroom before putting on your lotions and perfumes so you can not only make the bathroom smell nice, but he will have no idea that you're in fact covering up the bathroom smell!
  • Many people think doing your business before getting into the shower will eliminate the smell, but that is very much a false assumption. If you steam up the bathroom, the smell will linger, so opt for running cold water in the sink to mask the noise instead.
  • Keep a candle in the bathroom along with some matches. Although smelling a burnt match will be a dead giveaway, at least he won't be able to smell anything else.
  • Since room sprays are also a dead giveaway that you've dropped the kids off, keep an odor neutralizer in the bathroom so you can get rid of the smell without masking it with something else.

Hopefully once you get more familiar with your boyfriend, going to the bathroom when you're together will get easier, and ladies, if you have any no-fail tips you'd like to share, please do so below.


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heineken67 heineken67 9 years
My bf of six years is very frank about poo, thinks being stinky is funny, etc. I still don't ever let on about dropping the kids off at the pool. If my stomach hurts he may tell me I need to poo, but I still insist I never do such things.
Jeannie_CK Jeannie_CK 9 years
LOL. I am still going through this with my bf and we have been together for a year. I just can't go yet he tells me when he has to go do number 2 hehe... (cringe cringe)
Bevaleee78 Bevaleee78 9 years
hahaha i love the period comment.
melda melda 9 years
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I don't have to do this anymore, but I used to flush the toliet and then pee as fast as I could haha.
Emiily Emiily 9 years
I poop before a shower, while he's sleeping, or while he's out. I can't do it when he's just in the next room though, I just can't! I'll get over it one day though. When I have to fart I go into the bathroom and quietly do it. I try to do it before I go to his house and not eat as much, but not eating makes it worse. If I do eat then it's easier to go, if I have a chance to go. It's be easier, if he'd just freakin fart in front of me, at least once!! Come on!
bun_buns bun_buns 9 years
i had the worst case of food poisoning when my bf and i were staying over at a friend's place for new years. i was stuck throwing up and having the runs in my friend's bathroom all night and my concerned bf stayed with me the entire time. we had only been together for a few weeks and i was mortified that he wanted to stay in the bathroom with me (i think he was worried that i might have to go to the hospital). ever since then we could do anything in front of each other. i was actually more uncomfortable going #2 around my roommate. i would turn on the fan before starting the shower to make it seem like i was trying to prevent mold/mildew and then do my business. the fan made for a lil colder shower but it took care of all the undesirable odors.
Jamaella Jamaella 9 years
i will never do it lol its just too much
Talldiva45 Talldiva45 9 years
okay - I understand being uncomfortable and all with the bathroom thing but if you are intimate with someone you should be able to go to the bathroom with them aound ...right? I know easier said than done - just my opinion.
JessBear JessBear 9 years
Funny story: I was at my parents' house, and I HAD to go. It was just my teenaged brother and me, and we were leaving soon, so I decided to take my chances there rather than the movie theatre bathroom. Yadda yadda yadda...I sprayed the flowery spray and then quickly vacated the scene of the crime. A few minutes later, my brother walks by, stops, and goes, "What's that smell?" I reply, "What do you think, moron?" He goes, "The spray?" And I'm like, duh. He pauses, then goes, "Why would you spray that?" I just looked at him, then finally said "I pooped!" He goes, "So why'd you spray the spray?" Now I NEVER spray the spray, because if someone smells it, it's bound to be a huge deal while we laugh over how disgusting teenage boys are, that they don't even know the purpose of bathroom spray.
JessBear JessBear 9 years
This used to PETRIFY me. I don't think I really ever got used to it until we moved in together. My favorite method was to do it before my shower (with the shower running, so he's completely clueless). Even though Dear said this causes more stink, I think if you use smelly soaps and such, it does mask the odor. And if there is any lingering stench, you can spray body spray without arousing suspition after a shower. Body spray is also always a less inocuous choice than room spray. Nowadays, I prefer relief to hours of constipation, but I have to be absolutely certain my bf won't intrude on me. We're very open about everything else, so I'm always afraid he's just going to walk in on me. So if he's nearby, I tell him I have to go "potty".
chicaparati17 chicaparati17 9 years
This is great! I am married and we open the doors and talk to eachother :) Of course we always keep the candles burning!
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
this is hysterical--thanks dear for posting something like this hahaha ive been with my boyfriend a year and a half and living together for 10 months and i stillll hate to go to the bathroom with him around. ill do it but i'm not happy about it. i feel much better going when he's at work haha its this weird thing... at least the farting thing ive conquered haha
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
I just did it, there wasnt any brochure i read or steps i took. Its all about comfort level, trust and how open you are
blondewithbangs blondewithbangs 9 years
i LOVE that others have this smae problem! Our bathroom is like the center of the apartment so where ever you are in the place you know whats goin gon in there. i try to go before i take a shower, with all the good smelling lotions, shower gels, shaving creams and shampoo i use its impossible to smell anything. What i still havent figured out is what to do if i get the runs, its loud! i have a very sensitive stomach so it happens prety often. gross.
Marci Marci 9 years
I never gave it a lot of thought, but I guess this is a shared issue for all of us! :D I have no suggestions to offer at all..........but never heard the running water trick. I grew up in a house where matches were left on the toilet tank and you were expected to use them. Everyone knew what you'd been up to in there, but when I was young I didn't care because I got to use matches without getting in trouble!
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 9 years
OMG! haha I have the reverse of this problem... last time I was at my guys house I spent the night...we did our thing in the morning... and I thought he was taking a shower before going off to work, so I figured I was gona be sexy and join in the the shower.... So I sorta knocked on the door... but I cracked the door open before I could really see anything.... Turns out he was on the crapper and he was using the ole running water in the sink thing to cover it up.... But dumb me thought I heard the shower running... He was like, "What do you need?!?" He was really panicked and I tried to explain that I thought he was taking a shower... but I sorta gave up and tried to save of both the embarrassment of never mentioning it... Whats so funny is we've been together for 8 months and the pooping thing has never been an issue... But I refuse to poop anywhere near his home... I wanna keep up the illusion of the hot girlfriend.
FB1977 FB1977 9 years
I would run water or make some other kind of noise (a fan is the best). The worst is when you're traveling with your man, and there's no fan in the bathroom. In such close quarters it's impossible to try to go number 2.
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 9 years
my cousins girlfriend was sooo scared to destroy the bathroom while he was around too! So much so that she she didnt even go two weeks while on vacation with him. Needless to say she got extremely sick and had to go to the doctor. Please, my fiance is like "did you boo boo today? You need to use the bathroom everyday!! its not healthy if you dont!" I got it easy.
Linz81 Linz81 9 years
Carry around extra smelly hand soap or sanitizer to cover up the smell...haha.
ErieIndiana ErieIndiana 9 years
Haha, we always casually tell each other to go into the other room and listen to some music for a while.
pugglelover pugglelover 9 years
The best thing to do is courtesy flush! As soon as it hits the water you flush the toilet. This way it's not sitting there stinking it up. I even have trained my husband to do this. It works!
marthalilian126 marthalilian126 9 years
Even when I was living with my ex-boyfriend, I just could not go unless he was going to be out for a few hours! As much as I hated going at work, that ended up being what I did most often. And when we were first dating, I would just wait until I got home -- often two or more days.
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
Ha ha, I am glad to know I am not alone. I am so uptight I really can't go any where but my own house so it was never a big issue for me.
DearSugar DearSugar 9 years
I'm with you Esix!!!
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