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The How-To Lounge: Creating Your Wedding Guest List

When it comes to the perfect wedding day, it’s all about being happy and having fun, so it’s incredibly important to make sure that the special people in your lives are there to celebrate with you and your fiancé. Although writing up a guest list might sound like an easy task, things can get pretty tricky when you incorporate factors like budget, venue, space, and your parents' preferences. However, there certainly are a few tips you can follow to avoid the headache — or at least some of it! To check them out,

  • First and foremost, be very clear on how many people you want to invite, factoring in the budget and the venue.
  • Talk to your fiancé, and decide who you won’t be inviting — exes, children, dates for each guest, etc…
  • Keep in mind that it is customary for both sets of your parents to partake in the creation of the guest list — this is a special day for them too! If they’re contributing financially, you’ll want to make sure they’re given a number of guests they can invite as well.
  • On the first sit down, let everyone put in the name of people who they would like to come, then start to whittle down the list. Sometimes this can take quite a few weeks so refer to your wedding timeline so you can leave yourselves plenty of time.
  • While you’ll surely be talking about your wedding at work, it’s not mandatory that you invite the entire office. You can either choose to not include any of them or just ask your closest work friends. But like we learned back in grade school, if you invite everyone but one person, there will be hurt feelings so do use some tact.
  • Don’t feel like you have to invite every person whose wedding you’ve been to, but if your wedding is in the same wedding season, it's expected that you'll return the invite. If your wedding is on the small side, it’s much easier to avoid inviting someone whose wedding you enjoyed recently, but if you’re having a big wedding, I recommend at least trying to fit her in.

Avoid inviting anyone verbally prior to finalizing your guest list. You never know what can happen, and you don’t want any disappointed or hurt friends.

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minaminamina minaminamina 9 years
I wish I could have a small wedding, but I have 14 aunts & uncles and all them together have 52 children (my first cousins, mostly teenage & adult) and some of those have families of their own, on top of which Egyptian weddings are incredibly elaborate anyway... if I can just find a decent tabla group and manage to walk with all my gold on, I might be able to enjoy myself when the time comes.
0danielle0 0danielle0 9 years
My boyfriend and I always talk about wanting a small wedding, but it seems impossible to invite fewer than 50 people. Ugh!
emalove emalove 9 years
This is so NOT an easy task!
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
At my wedding a lot of the people who were invited couldn't come so it really helped to know that ahead of time and pare down the wedding accordingly. Our wedding was so casual anyway so I didn't worry about the guest list.
tiff58 tiff58 9 years
I'm still trying to get my fiance to participate in this! I have an excel spreadsheet and he just rattles off names at different times, which I have no way of remembering!
bchicgrl bchicgrl 9 years
Wow, after reading that I'm extremely happy I'm having a small wedding, 40-50 people max.
melizzle melizzle 9 years
The wedding list was by far the hardest part of the whole process... create some rules and stick to them no matter what (i.e. no exes at all, nothing further than second cousins, etc.)
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
Thanks for the tips!
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