Regardless of how easygoing, fun to be around, or sweet you may be, it’s inevitable that you’re going to come across someone who you just don’t get along with. We’re all different, and just as we can feel a deep connection with some people, it’s very normal to feel a strong distaste for others. Whether we know them through work, school, or even family, they can be impossible to avoid altogether so the best you can do is try to get along. To find out how,
- Spend as little time with them as possible. This doesn’t mean that you should ignore them, but if there's no need to interact then don’t. The more you’re with them, the greater chances you'll have of becoming annoyed and angry.
- Though of course we have our reasons for disliking someone, most of the time it’s not because they’re a terrible person, but simply because our personalities just don’t mesh. So while it may be easy to nitpick all their annoying habits, it’s important to acknowledge their positive attributes as well.
- Likewise, recognizing their personal struggles is also valuable. Always try to consider what challenges have made them the way they are — it’s not necessarily a good enough reason to suddenly like them, but it can help you understand them better.
- Be respectful of them even when it’s hard. You don’t want to become the bad guy, so don’t act like one.
- Being respectful doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t stand up for yourself if necessary. If they treat you poorly, I think it’s fine to kindly put them in their place.
And remember, if you don’t have something nice to say then don’t say anything at all. It's a great etiquette standard, but especially true when dealing with those people who get under your skin.