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The How-To Lounge: Giving a Lap Dance

Now, I don’t think that anyone should be rushing out and giving lap dances to random gents, but lap dances can be a sexy and fun way to spice up your foreplay. It can also be a serious treat for your man and a great way to take the initiative. To learn my tips,


  • First and most important, act confident — even if you don’t feel it. Tell yourself that you’re the sexiest woman on the planet, and then act like you really believe it. It will make all the difference in the world.
  • Put on some music. Not only will the right song set the mood, but it’ll also give you some rhythm to move along with.
  • Don’t be afraid to tantalize him for a while without actually touching him directly. Move your body up and down in front of him, before straddling him with your legs.
    Then use your upper body to roll into him and press up against him. You can even smack your bottom and smile at him — he'll never see it coming!
  • Finally, put his hands on your body while you run your hands through his hair. Lift off his shirt, and let your fingertips trail down his chest.

As always, have fun, and do what feels right for you!


Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I agree Tidal! My boyfriend LOVES it! And I love watching how turned on he gets from my body! Makes me feel more confident and sexy :P
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
skigurl! you think your boyfriend is going to feel awkward at seeing his girlfriend dance in front of him and look sexy and playfully tease him? geez, is foreplay awkward for you?
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i think it would be so awkward for both parties involved! unless you were good and drunk!
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years If you're nervous about it, rent the Carmen Electra fitness striptease videos (there is a lapdance one). They will give you ideas and she does a really good job at making everything seem natural and easy. Also, your boyfriend will looooooooooooove it. No matter how nervous you look or if you mess up or start giggling. He'll love that you just had the courage to even try to do that!
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
Yaya! I start my pole dancing classes TODAY! My bf is soooo excited :) We are SO getting a pole as soon as I start to get good :WOOHOO:
LoveSarah LoveSarah 9 years
My fiance and I are so open about everything, that it's so easy for me to feel comfortable with him. I'll have to try this later tonight ;)
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 9 years
I dunno if I would ever have the courage to do this (someday... maybe), but it's always good to know where the info is if I need it. Thanks for the ideas Sugar!
MissMimz MissMimz 9 years
awwww thanks for this post Sugar! I like tips to spice things up ;-)
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 9 years
now I just need to find a lap to dance in :nerdgirl:
neonbee neonbee 9 years
My friends and I tried pole dancing as exercise and I guess I've felt more confident about dancing in general, even lap dances. But I'm not quite sure I'm ready to do it in front of my significan other.
sassy_chick sassy_chick 9 years
We love this. The benefit of being engaged to a man who loves you is that you're free to explore things that you secretly want but would never do in real life. I could never bring myself to strip professionally, but it's hot to play that part in the bedroom with my man. He's so appreciative and complimentary that it makes me feel amazing. And we all know that confidence=amazing sex.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
Sorry, not my style. I dance, but I wouldn't do stripper moves. That's not my sexual personality.
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