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8 Things to Remember When Breaking Someone's Heart

Yesterday I asked you all: what's the nicest way to break up with someone? Some readers were stumped, suggesting that there really isn't a kind way to end a relationship. Still many of you offered sage advice curated from both sides of a breakup, so I came up with eight tips to guide you should you need to pull the plug.

  1. Don't delay. If you've made up your mind, do your soon-to-be ex a favor and end things instead of going through the motions.
  2. Accept the positive. If you sincerely say: "We had some great times and you taught me a lot, but I need to move on," the dumpee will feel that time spent together was not wasted.
  3. Don't try to make your partner break up with you. This is immature and infuriating for the other person. If you want to end things, please don't do it by picking fights, breaking plans, and ignoring phone calls.
  4. Avoid cliches. "We can still be friends" sounds lazy and insincere.
  5. Do it in person. Ending a relationship via text, email, or phone calls is dismissive.
  6. Be honest. Don't make up excuses, instead offer your reasons and answer any questions the best you can.
  7. Don't give false hope of getting back together. It's not fair to suggest that the breakup is just a break if you know it's over.
  8. Take some time. While you're technically free to date post-breakup, it's respectful to wait at least a couple of weeks before you start to seriously play the field — especially if your hookups will get back to the person you just broke up with.

Did I miss anything?

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jhon7smith jhon7smith 7 years
A relationship means it is all about give and take; it would be good things or bad things. Relationship is a bond or connection you have with another Person. Every marriage life faces so many problems in their life. To reduce problems in relationship remember few things like we have to make proper communication, forgive, apologize, be positive with your partner and have trust on your partner. These points will help develop successful relationship. For more information visit: http://www.astonishinglifestyle.com/
runningesq runningesq 7 years
You can be, chill, but it's something no one wants to hear. Even if you want to be friends the dumpee may not feel the same way: <i>Hey, I'd like to downgrade our relationship.</i>
runningesq runningesq 7 years
You can be, chill, but it's something no one wants to hear. Even if you want to be friends the dumpee may not feel the same way: Hey, I'd like to downgrade our relationship.
chillchic chillchic 7 years
I agree with everything except for # 4. I have told guys that we can still be friend not because I was lazy but because I meant it. You can be friends with your exes.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
YES this one is good: Don't give false hope of getting back together. i feel so bad for people who think/wait/expect/hope that their ex is going to come back soon and want to get back together when you know full well that isn't going to happen just give them the ability to move on and don't give them false hope!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
YES this one is good: Don't give false hope of getting back together. i feel so bad for people who think/wait/expect/hope that their ex is going to come back soon and want to get back together when you know full well that isn't going to happenjust give them the ability to move on and don't give them false hope!
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