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How Can I Get Him To Loosen Up?

Dear Sugar
I've been dating a guy for 2 months and I really like him. Yet I still don't feel 100% relaxed when I'm around him.

He's so formal at times that it makes me tense. My usual personality is to joke around more and be more goofier. How can I get him to lighten up a little bit? Playful Penny

Dear Playful Penny
Go for it full force and blatantly try to break the ice. Talk about bathroom humor, sex and share your most embarrassing moment with him. He'll either be horrified or he'll follow your lead and let down his guard a little bit.

Sometimes you just need a good laugh to ease the tension. Doing this might just change the tone of things and hopefully you'll get to know each other on a less serious level. Rent Harold and Kumar Go To White Castle, order a pizza and just kick it.

See if he can be comfortable just hanging with you. Maybe a night like this will be a breakthrough in the "relationship."

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