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How to Choose Bridesmaids

Do You Know Your Wedding Party Already?

Daydreaming about your big day does not require a fiancé. Many of us have imagined how we would plan our theoretical weddings, and once we start going to the weddings of our friends and family, it's hard not to prematurely decide what we'd like, and what we wouldn't like, at our own.

While many of these fantasy details might change depending on the circumstances of the actual wedding, as a bride you'll probably have control over your wedding party. So I want to know: if you're not married or engaged, do you already have your bridesmaids and maid of honor in mind? For those of you who are already married, did you know who you would ask before you got engaged?

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ayuninur ayuninur 7 years
no, don't bother
socalbeachgal socalbeachgal 7 years
Mine was easy having one best friend and 3 sisters - wedding party done!
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
Yeah if it's ever legal for me to get married :/ I would ask my best friend Shelli be my Best Women, lol. To be honest I don't see anyone else other than her by my side on that day if it should ever come.
Pistil Pistil 7 years
I've thought about it, and I don't think I'll have a wedding party.
gd101 gd101 7 years
Yes, I already have my maid of honor in mind, but the comments above are right...friendships change.....
xxstardust xxstardust 7 years
I do know already, actually. My boyfriend has a large circle of friends and as such (to minimize hurt feelings) is only having his one best friend who he's known since they were in diapers, in addition to his brother and my brother. I'm having my two best friends and my little cousin; luckily, one of my best friends is married so she'll be my matron of honor and my other best friend will be my maid of honor .. no worrying about how to choose between them! Ideally, I would have one other of my close friends I would love to have in my party, but trying to pick another for the guy's side would only lead to endless drama. I'm planning to ask her to do a reading, instead, so I can honor her and our friendship.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
I've been married for almost 5 years, and my advice is to keep the wedding party small -- makes everything much easier.
lwimbush lwimbush 7 years
actually, this is always something that i dread...i have so many close friends, an embarrassment of riches, really, from elementary school, high school, college, camp, and just random, that i don't know how i could possibly pick just one friend to be my maid of honor. even picking just a few friends to be in a wedding party seems daunting. i also don't have any sisters or close girl cousins. i know i could always go the route of not having a maid of honor, etc. but i think i want one. luckily, i have plennnnty of time to figure it out.
gingirl gingirl 7 years
Yea, my friendships have changed a lot recently, so I really have no idea. It doesn't help that my bf has a bunch of male cousins and brothers he would want in it. I wouldn't know enough girls to even it out anymore lol
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
obviously i know that my two bffs and my sister would be in my wedding, but friendships change, so i don't bother thinking about it at this point, as i am nowhere close to getting married!
starbucks2 starbucks2 7 years
We don't do bridesmades in Germany...I really like that tradition, though, I wish we did! I really don't have a clue who my maid of honor would be. I wish I had a sister, that would make it easier. I know who I would want, but that would lead to a lot of hurt feelings...
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
I used to know who I'd want, but my friendships have changed a lot, so now I have no idea.
mallorycurtis mallorycurtis 7 years
i think i'll just have two, my sister and my best friend. i have a lot of good friends beyond that who i wouldn't be able to choose between, so it's either two or 15!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
yes i have a pretty good idea who it would be, for sure - i know who my best friends are (and my sister, always) but it would somewhat depend on exactly how many my boyfriend would want on his side, i guess
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