What do you do when you and your husband don't live in the same home? We've been together a total of 19 years and married for four. We've talked about living together, but he has his mother and 22-year-old son living with him and I have my 22-year-old son (who is away at college) with me. I am tired of living in separate homes and so is my husband, but he doesn't actually do anything about it. I've been patient, but I cannot take it anymore! I love him and he loves me as well. My mother-in-law thinks my husband is her husband and we don't get along. I also recently lost my job, so money has put a strain on our marriage. What must I do to let him know that it's them or me?