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How Do I Go From Booty Call to Relationship?

"Am I Just a Booty Call, or Is This Going Somewhere?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

I met a guy online and we talked for about a week before deciding to get together. We met up downtown when we were both out with friends and I ended up going home with him. We talked until 5 a.m., but then we slept together. He was very considerate and made sure I was OK with doing it. Later I asked him if he could see us dating — because I don't want to be that girl he just sleeps with — and he replied "Yeah, I think you're awesome."

We've hung out a few times now, but it always ends with us in bed. He has met my friends and I've met his; I feel like he wouldn't bother trying to impress my friends or introducing me to his if I were a true bootycall. He is really sweet. A mutual friend, who has known him for a while, told me that he's a great guy and his buddy even said he's marriage material. I just want him to invite me over to spend time with me, not meet out downtown and go home at 2 a.m. or call me at 11 at night to come have a drink and "hang out." The one time he invited me to the pool with his friends I was busy, so I'm afraid I'm giving off the vibe that I don't want anything serious. I've joked about him taking me out on a date, but he hasn't asked yet. I'm thinking of backing off and letting him chase me if he wants to, because I'm afraid to come off as too clingy, since we really only met in person two weeks ago. 

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I guess my question is, how do I get the message across to him that I'm not that girl, nor do I want to be, that he can just call at night when he's drinking? I don't want to suggest dates, because I'll come off as clingy, but I don't want to ignore him either. What should I do?

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