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"How Do I Learn to Love Myself?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

This question is plain and simple. I don't really get any sense of relief from my own self. I beat myself up, but at the same time I give myself too much of a break — serious self-esteem issues. I'm glad about the little things I accomplish but I don't seem to like anything I accomplish. (It's hard to explain.) I am 17, and I know that's very young to have self-esteem issues, actually I don't think anyone should have these issues. I've tried therapy throughout my life and their method is to write in a journal and remind yourself of the positive and write down 3 positive things every day, exercise, talk with friends, dress yourself up, don't stay in the dark. I've been doing this for years now and I seem to just do it out of homework. I know how to find every negative thing in every positive thing. Bringing myself down is my specialty. I realize I'm gullible to negative comments about me and I can't help but feel even more insecure. I know I should lean on myself more, but I have no idea how I can do that if I don't like myself much. I know self-esteem issues come from the way you were raised, so I've been told, but knowing that won't help me solve my problem. I want to know what I can do from here on out, different advice from different people.

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