I have a problem with alcohol and I want to stop drinking. I tend to drink too much and I don't like the way I act or the way I feel the next day.
The problem is I'm 23 and most social situations with people my age involve drinking. It is very noticeable when someone isn't drinking and people always ask them if they're sick or if something is wrong. I don't want my sobriety to become a big deal or for other people to feel odd drinking around me. I moved to a new city a few months ago and don't know many people here yet, so I don't want to alienate myself too much. I know my closer friends would be fine with it but I don't want to limit meeting new people.
We take public transit everywhere and I don't have a car, so offering to be the DD isn't an option. I've tried the trick where you order a soda or virgin drink and just let others assume it's mixed, and that usually works great. But there's always a situation where someone orders a round of shots, wants to split a pitcher of beer, or something like that. How can I stay sober is social situations without making things awkward?