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How Do You Manage Anger?

Do Tell: How Do You Subdue Your Anger?

Guess who feels anger early, often, and most intensely? People under 30. A study that surveyed 1,800 Americans found time pressure, economic hardship, and workplace conflict are stressing Americans, especially young Americans, out.

It also found that education helps people deal with anger because it helps people respond more "proactively" to anger, but that sounds like vague, life-coach talk to me. Since anger is a natural response to stress, we can't really unleash it on any person or thing in our paths or— try as we might — hide it away in a bottle of gin.

The American Psychological Association suggests "expressing, suppressing, and calming" anger, but that sounds almost as useless as getting proactive. My anger triage usually goes more like this: reframe thoughts, whine to friends, go for a walk. Repeat. What do you do to bid your anger adieu?

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vmruby vmruby 7 years
Depending on who and how pissed I am I'll usually vent to my husband or friend , talk a walk ,or I 'll go to my room shut the door and try to regroup. I
kulikuli kulikuli 7 years
When im angry: Sports, i usually go to the gym and do weights, or volleyball. I used to to kickboxing when i had that available too. Unfortunately i do smoke as well, does help with the stress. Bad habit though. I only keep things bottled up if im sad, but anger gets my blood going so i work out. By the time im done, im usually too exhausted to care about it anymore.
dexaholic dexaholic 7 years
Deep breaths... I used to get really angry while driving, when someone would cut me off or wouldn't let me merge. Then I came to the realization that life is too short for road rage! (I have adopted a "zen" attitude while behind the wheel - if you want to get over, come on over! If you let me in, you'll get a friendly wave! Sometimes on my way home from work I count the number of waves I get from other drivers. They never quite add up to the number I give out, but one day I know they will:)) If something does make me angry or upset, I try not to dwell on it too long. I try to think about something more positive, and repeat my mantra (borrowed from Monty Python's Life of Brian): Always look on the bright side of life!
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 7 years
When my emotions get the best of me (whether anger or upset), I tend to go take my dogs for a long walk and get away from the situation for a little. (I find loving my puppies rather than hurting them makes me feel better - nothing like crying into my Benny's chest while he tries to lick my face.) Taking bubble baths while listening to classical music or reading a book helps. Yoga definitely helps with anger due to my job. If I'm angry with my husband, I ask myself - is this worth fighting over? If it was a different situation, would I still be this angry? And if I can't answer yes to both questions, then I let it go. Jazztummy - nothing helped me get rid of anger faster than taking my horse for a run through the trails. Just wish I still had my horse :-(
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
Yelling and screeching. Or I take a shower, curl up in my favourite hoodie (even if it's 40 degrees outside).
Ac2366 Ac2366 7 years
The last thing I would ever do is kick a puppy! Jeez, that's not even funny as a joke. When I'm angry and one of my cats or dogs walks over to me for some love they actually calm me down. I typically take a deep breath and slow myself down so I can think before I speak. I'll ocassionally slam a door. My father has the worst temper in the world and he let's it out by screaming and throwing/breaking things. He says some very hurtful things then acts like nothing happened. I refuse to be like that so I keep myself under control.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
It depends. If I'm angry with a person, psychologically, I withdraw from that person, if that makes sense. I do this to buy myself time to calm down. After I've calmed down, I analyze the situation to decide how to treat that person. Then I exact my revenge. ;) LOL If I'm angry at the circumstances (as opposed to a person), I would swear out loud or under my breath. I try not to use profanity, as I find those words vulgar. I would say, "Darn it," or something. It's a good release.
PiNkY-PiNk PiNkY-PiNk 7 years
I yell. And say mean, rude things. I tried calming down, breathing deep breaths and then speaking in a low voice and it has worked sometimes but it doesn't most of the time. I'm gonna try it again.
carpediem825 carpediem825 7 years
get wasted
MissSushi MissSushi 7 years
i vent to someone, usually my husband or my mother. For some reason, within the past couple of years, venting has really started helping me. Instead of feeling like im rehashing it and obsessing over it, it's like a release. I spew the WHOLE thing, get it out, how i feel about it, how angry it makes me, why it shouldnt be the way it is, yadda yadda. Afterwards, even if absolutely nothing has changed, I feel a ton better. Half the time, I even forget some of the details afterwards as I go on with life. I'm a pretty positive person, and I don't like being miserable, so it's definitely a release for me to just talk to someone and explain things. I'm a make your own happiness type person, so I don't like to wallow in my misery, even if it's an ongoing situation I can't change at the moment. I don't like to eat or sleep when I'm upset or angry, it makes me feel really ill. I have to wait a while after calming down before my appitite comes back, even if its been a while.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
I rarely get angry. Anger to me is something you feel when someone kicks your dog just for shits and giggles or steels an old ladies purse. Those are things to get angry about. When I do feel the emotion rise I ask my self okay what purpose is this going to serve other than to make me even more aggravated and if the answer is none then I pretty much convince my self right there that there's no point in allowing my self to go there.
Pistil Pistil 7 years
I stomp my feet, slam a door, yell at nothing or no one in particular, and then I feel better.
fuzzles fuzzles 7 years
Bacon. :feedme:
Akasha Akasha 7 years
#9 I unfortunately have to join you in the cig as well. I used to go to the gym and do some kickboxing which was always good. There is nothing like kicking people that will calm you down. Plus it will save the puppies.
staple-salad staple-salad 7 years
I usually rant to my boyfriend, or anyone who will listen (depending on how mad I am). I also try to do some yoga 3-part breaths until I calm down since that lowers the cortisol (stress hormone) in the blood, and makes me feel happier.
Frenched Frenched 7 years
I usually take a deep breath and go somewhere where I can be alone with my thoughts. Afterwards, I'll vent it all off in a journal or I'll just do something indulgent (go shopping, eat ice cream, etc.) Even though I occasionally try to talk about with somebody else, I've just realized that it usually ends up getting me more wound up and angrier than I was and it's just harder for me to get over it that way.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Go for a run, usually. Sometimes, when it's about a certain person who makes me angry all the time (an ex friend), I bitch viciously to my boyfriend and drink too much wine. Sometimes I take a really hot shower, which always calms me down.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
I like driving fast with loud music when I'm upset. Kicking puppies works too though... :)
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
Exercise, fresh air, yoga, riding my horse, etc. Anything that gets me out of the house and moving always helps. It's like the anger dissipates into space, at least for the time being, so then I can address the issue that caused the anger with a clearer head.
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 7 years
Kick a puppy :-)
KadBunny KadBunny 7 years
I can't eat when I'm angry or depressed, like.. I could try but my body rejects the very idea of it. It's good I guess 'cause apparently food doesn't digest properly when you're stressed anyway. I tend to bottle it up until I cry; I'm not very good at handling it. I've recently started running though and it's amazing how good it makes you feel; my mind is free when I'm running. :)
mirandapanda195 mirandapanda195 7 years
I call a trusted friend, who is unbiased to listen. Take it out on family (sorry!), and invite said friend over to help me get over it. Depending on situation this may include retail therapy or Ben and Jerry's new york super fudge chunk. When I'm done being angry I am often depressed which calls for over exercising and lack of appetite. Does anybody eat more when they are depressed?? or do others like myself, eat nothing but luna bars until they can get over it?
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