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How Have Your Dating Requirements Changed With Age?

As we get older, our taste in men (or women) evolves. We might find ourselves becoming more picky about who we spend our valuable time dating, opting only for candidates who have their lives in order and their hearts in the right place.

But we may also let some of our requirements go: you might be wiling to bend that 6'1" height requirement you had in college, for a smart and funny shorty. So if a man had to be tall, cute, and popular when we were young, maybe he has to be smart, successful, and sweet as we get older. How have your dating requirements changed?

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gingrlj gingrlj 7 years
oh yeah a bit. In my early 30's now and the guy has got to be more mature than any young "right out of parent's house" guy. Since I've traveled, loved, lost (hurt badly), viewed different things I like dating a guy who's views on the whole are clear and open to others. All through the years though the guy should have a strong desire and self esteem.
Alyssa9986 Alyssa9986 7 years
Unfortunately, I think I will always have issues dating someone shorter than me (try being 5'8 in middle school!) but I've come to love and adore not-so handsome men, not-so rich men, and not-so "outwardly" perfect men...and with each of them, I've come out just a little bit more well-rounded and appreciative for the lessons that came with them. I think if you like someone, and they make you feel those warm-fuzzy-amazing feelings, then more power to you! Feelings like those are far and few between in life and shouldn't be dictated by someone's outward appearance. I am not having Foot in Mouth Syndrome. Perhaps I should readdress my initial statement.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
*zero flake not (flack), lol
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
When I was in my 20's they just had to be pretty and hot. As I moved into my 30's I realized that men in general straight or gay for the most part for whatever reason have no F'ing clue how to communicate feelings. That became a must for any person I dated, they had to be good communicators intellectually and emotionally. That along with my zero flack tolerance pretty much left me dateless, lol, but I lucked out and finally found my sweat heart.
12345678910111213 12345678910111213 7 years
I've let go of the requirement for guys who are socially outgoing and suave after going for one whom everyone else loved but he just wasn't so into me. Now I'm with someone who is more shy but opens up to me and treats me like a princess. It doesn't matter if he isn't known by everyone and isnt' the life of the party. Those things aren't important at this age.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Absolutely. I used to go for looks or quick passion over someone who actually made me feel good and that I had something in common with. I'm lucky enough now that I have someone who has all of those qualities, but I went through a lot of *ssholes.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
I have two physical requirements: brunette, taller than me. But there's a lot of area that can still be covered with those. I can't date someone that doesn't know what they want in life and has no ambition. I'm only 22, so this could all change drastically ;) But I highly doubt the lack of ambition/life in order requirement will change. I can't date a bum.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
Well, I've been happily married for several years, so I don't think of dating anymore. However, in the odd chance that our marriage won't work out, for sure, my dating requirements would be different from that when I was younger. It would be too much information for me to post here, but let's just say, I gained a lot of new lessons since I was younger (and from my marriage).
lauraxtc lauraxtc 7 years
Im less picky. I go with their personality, charisma, intellectual and if they are funny, major plus. But I do not date guys who don't have it together. I need a man, not a boy.
weffie weffie 7 years
I've gotten less picky for sure... when I was younger, I wouldn't even look at a guy unless he was tall, hot, into (what I deemed to be) good music, and financially independent. I dated a lot of really good-looking total assholes back then! Since I've grown up and become less superficial, I've been way more into guys that are just fun to hang out with and make me laugh a lot... Oddly enough, I haven't been in a long-term situ since the hot-jerk days, but I've had a million times more fun since letting my ridiculous standards go.
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 7 years
I need a man who knows what he wants out of life or at least has an idea of where he wants his life to go. The drifting of younger men is a real turnoff.
Blackwood Blackwood 7 years
no, not one bit. my main requirement is that the person I date really actually makes me feel something, special. which is probably why I'm still a virgin.
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