Here's a tidbit of information that may comfort you. Only 30 percent of women are able to orgasm during intercourse alone. That means that most of us need a lot of attention paid to our lady parts. If you're too shy to use your own hand, or your man can't quite coordinate having sex while touching you at the same time, then using a sex toy, such as a vibrator, will work wonders! Introducing these kinds of intimate items into your love-making session may be embarrassing though, so here are some different ways you can do it:
- Some guys might take it personally if you just whip out a sex toy — they could feel inadequate — so talk to your guy about it first. Explain that your desire to try a sex toy doesn't have anything to do with his ability to please you (even if that is the case) but rather that you think it'd be fun to add a little excitement to your sex life. Remind him that sex toys can benefit him too — a win-win if you ask me!
- Pick out a toy together. If walking into a sex shop seems a little too overwhelming, check out an online store such as GoodVibes.com. This way you can take the time to browse the items together without running the risk of bumping into someone you know — a potential awkward situation! He may also be more excited and less intimidated if he's involved in the process.
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- If talking about it didn't go over too well, don't extinguish the idea completely. Go ahead and pick out a sex toy yourself. Use it alone first so you can figure out if you like it. If you're a fan, ask him if you can show him how it works. Your self-confidence about using a sex toy should help him change his tune.