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How to Be Single Again

5 Single Traits to Relearn After a Breakup

When you are in a long-term, serious relationship, you train yourself to behave a certain way — you're always in couple mode. So when the relationship ends, you have to relearn how to be single again. Things like flirting and giving off that "I'm available" vibe are no longer instinctual. To help you out, here are some of the solo behaviors that are tricky to pull off when you're getting back into the dating game. Now's the time to step up your single woman A game.

1. Turning that frown upside down.

Do you walk around with a face that says, "I'm in a relationship, so don't even think about it"? It might take daily reminders to keep smiling after a rough breakup. One trick is to listen to upbeat tunes on your iPhone. Bonus: it improves your mood from the outside in!

2. Saying yes.

When you have a significant other, you may be used to turning down happy hours and girls' nights out in favor of cuddling with your honey at home or date nights. Retrain yourself to start accepting those invites! You're not going to meet a rebound in your living room.


3. Keeping your eyes on the prize(s).

Whether you're on the bus, in your office elevator, or out with girlfriends, you just never know when or where you might meet someone, so keep your head up and make eye contact. When you're paired up, you might have made it a habit to stare straight ahead or down at the ground so as not to encourage prospects. Well, times have changed! So keep those peepers peeled.

4. Flaunting what you got.

Being in a couple is comfortable, and it may show in your clothing and makeup choices. Now that you're back in action, it's amazing what some liquid eyeliner, sexy pumps, and shaving your legs can do for your self-confidence.

5. Knowing when someone is interested.

When you're in a long-term relationship, you tend to lose your "someone is hitting on you" radar — "What, them? No, they're just a friend." Being single again means sharpening those skills, and encouraging someone who's staring at you from the across the room with a smile and a "Hi."

How about you? Any other single characteristics you had a hard time relearning after a breakup?

Image Source: POPSUGAR Photography / Macy Williams
Sweet-Melissa-111 Sweet-Melissa-111 6 years
@mrs dr who: The photo is from an episode of How I Met Your Mother. The way they look in that picture is a hyperbolic representation of damage their relationship has done to them (he gains weight, she stops caring about her looks, they're boring and miserable all the time, etc.).
janneth janneth 7 years
The tip about smiling is actually really important. Even if you aren't happy, look happy. Smiling attracts guys. And it even boosts your own spirits.
freakorist freakorist 7 years
@little_mary: the people in the picture are barney and robin from how i met your mother. they date in season 4 or 5 and they start looking fat and ugly to the rest of the gang because they bring out the worst in each other....this still is from their break up scene, after which they look 'normal' again
mrs-dr-who mrs-dr-who 7 years
uhhh what's up with the couple in the picture? they seem... odd.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
Date yourself. Meaning if no one is buying you flowers: buy your own. If no one is taking you to lunch, take yourself. And I don't mean to Dennys. Some where you DESERVE to be taken to lunch. And go shopping for you. Buy clothes you like, not the former Mr. Wonderful would have liked.
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