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How Soon Should We Get Physical?

"He's Coming Back in Town, Should We?"

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I've been talking to/dating a guy for about a month and a half. We have gone on two dates, and the week of our last date he was leaving for five weeks to go to a remote location for work. He asked for my email to keep in touch, and since then, we've online chatted or emailed at least 2-3 times a week. I let him initiate most of it, since I wanted to see how interested he was, just as if he were here and calling/asking for dates at the beginning. He is now on his way back, and asked to see me the day after he gets back. I am wondering whether it's too soon to get physical, or if I should wait a little bit longer to see how we click in person? This is an unusual situation, but we have gotten to know each other a bit over the time he's been gone.

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pairodd pairodd 4 years
Hold off on getting physical, or you will always have that annoying worry that you are the "booty call in THIS city."Do you intend to have a long-term relationship with this guy?  Then take your time... Long-term relationships are built on respect and friendship.  The sooner you get physical, the sooner the other aspects are overtaken by the physical pangs.  Get to know each other, meet somewhere for dinner, for a walk in the park, have fun together.  Good luck! 
missmaryb missmaryb 4 years
It depends on how comfortable you both are. I don't believe that how soon you have sex is necessarily an indicator of how long the relationship will last. My best friend had sex on the first date and has been married for 12 years. You just never know. Follow your gut. If you think it's too early then it is.
henna-red henna-red 4 years
I'm not sure I believe there is anyone but the two of you who can answer your question. I tend to think that if you aren't sure, then it's too soon.
fusionsoftball88 fusionsoftball88 4 years
i think it really depends on the type of person you are. personally, if you are looking for a more emotional experience physically, even if you know eachother well enough now, waiting can intensify every aspect of it. talking over the computer often allows people to feel like they know each other on a more intimate level, but i agree with your last statement in that waiting after one more in person date will make it more comfortable.
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