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How to Survive Being a Bridesmaid

5 Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid's Survival Tips

Do you have the distinct honor of serving as a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding? If so, here are five tips that will help you enjoy the pre-wedding experience, while keeping your relationship with the bride intact.

  1. Be upfront: If you tell the bride early on what you can and cannot commit to, you will avoid hurting her feelings later.
  2. Plan ahead: Figure out the time and monetary commitments ASAP. Then set aside money for responsibilities like the bridal shower, bachelorette party, and dress. If you need flights, book them early. Accepting, and planning for, the costs upfront will keep you from resenting each purchase.
  3. Go through the maid of honor: If you need last minute info about the bachelorette party, or have any other logistical problem, try to run it by the maid of honor since the bride has so much to stress about. If you're the maid of honor, hopefully you can act as a calming filter when you relay concerns back to the bride.
  4. Make friends with the groomsmen: Whether it's at an engagement party or other event, do your best to get to know everyone in the wedding party. It will make the big day that much more fun!
  5. Suck it up: This is not your wedding, so do your best to go with the flow. Your friends will really appreciate it if you help her with some of the least glamourous planning tasks and maintain a supportive attitude throughout.

Are you the bride? Learn how to manage the bridal party in A Bride's Guide to Bridesmaids while maintaining your friendships. And start sharing your big day with our community. Don’t forget to check the wedding content box on your post.

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Amanda2559857 Amanda2559857 5 years
Two phrases to live by (for weddings and everything else): 1. Be reasonable. 2. Cut the drama.   Makes for great weddings and a great life in general!
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
I agree with snarkypants and skigurl. And I'm getting a little burnt out on bridesmaid posts.
boredgourdless boredgourdless 7 years
My only tip? If you're the MoH, don't--for the love of God--forget to charge your cell's battery the night before the wedding, and show up late for hair appointments! My MoH did that, and it was all I could do to hold it together and not have a massive meltdown in the salon. There's nothing like wedding day stress....
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
i agree with skigurl! so many posts about how hard it is to be a bridesmaid. usually it's more fun than work!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
i don't like the tone of "surviving" a wedding when you're in the wedding's not a negative thing to stand up for your good friend on the most important day of her's an honor AND it's super fun! yes, some of these are good tips (i agree, make friends with the guys to have more fun and make everyone's life easier! and go with the flow, don't be highmaintenance and annoying!) but i really don't think it's about's about being fun, agreeable, helpful, reliable, and supportive!!
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