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How Would You Feel If Your Significant Other Vacationed Without You?

Over the weekend, John Mayer was spotted in Cabo without his new girlfriend, Jennifer Aniston. Seems as though he was relaxing with his band mates and while I understand that distance can make the heart grow fonder, I have to say that I'd have hurt feelings if I were in her shoes. Of course, we don't know the circumstances in this situation, but how would you feel if your significant other went on a celebratory vacation without you when everyone else's wives/girlfriends were there? A lot of you think solo vacations are a do but what about for your partner? Does your opinion change when it's him going on vacation without you? Weigh in and tell me your stance on this kind of scenario.


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Isista Isista 8 years
If it were just a guy trip, I think I'd be fine :) Or hell, even if it were mixed friends, I trust my man. And I think both people in a relationship can be allowed to vacay without each other, if there is that trust.
darlene darlene 8 years
I'd be fine with it
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
Like the others it would depend on a lot of factors. My boyfriend doesn't take a lot of trips because of work. So if he used his few days of free time to go off on his own I think it would reflect on his priorities. But I travel a lot because I can work from home, so I go all sorts of places without him. He doesn't mind at all.
Laughing4life Laughing4life 8 years
I don't mind it. My boyfriend and I have only been together for a year, and his family are big world travelers, so they often go off. I'm also in grad school so it's harder for me to schedule vacation time. Plus, him and I are going on our first vacation together soon anyways :) And also, I agree with whomever mentioned that absence makes the heart grow fonder!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
We're married, and I wouldn't mind if we took separate vacations. It would be nice to have a vacation FROM EACH OTHER. ;) :)
ms660bk ms660bk 8 years
agree with shopaholichunny. no big deal.
brutalcupcake brutalcupcake 8 years
Depends on long you've been dating or how serious you are.
bluestar bluestar 8 years
I don't mind. I want to be able to travel alone too...even if I have a bf, a little space never hurt anyone!
neonbee neonbee 8 years
I wouldn't mind. My ex and I took about 3 vacations separately and there were no problems at all. I would mind though if he didn't tell me.
Marci Marci 8 years
You can't compare John Mayer to the rest of us. They're on the road and when they get a few days off, they really need to kick back. Touring is a hard lifestyle. And if your partner also works, schedules don't always mesh. I don't mind the occasional separate vacation, but my fiance and I never do them. My last boyfriend always claimed he was too busy with his business to take vacations, so we never went on any and I'd travel to visit family on my onw. One day he oh so casually mentioned he'd booked a trip to Italy with his mother at the exact same time I was going to visit my brother in California. He wasn't my boyfriend for long after that.
redegg redegg 8 years
I wouldn't mind at all. It would be nice to have a couple days to chill out. I take trips with friends without him because if I didn't I would never get to go anywhere. He doesn't want to travel much right now. So I would never hold it against him if he had a guys trip planned.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
I wouldn't mind it generally, but if everyone else's SOs were there and I hadn't been asked, I'd feel pretty insulted.
vmruby vmruby 8 years
It wouldn't bother me at all if I were single.I think it's good to take a break from each other every once in a while.I've gone on a few vacations with my girlfriends before I got married.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 8 years
My bf is leaving tomorrow for a week long trip! I wanted to go with him but I can't because of work and the poor thing desperately needs a holiday, so I'm trying to be encouraging - I didn't even think of the trust issues, I just don't want him to get mugged/targeted while travelling alone (he's going to Slovenia for an "adventure-type" trip, i.e. hiking, camping, etc.). So I'm worried about him on his own more than anything else! :(
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 8 years
I don't think I'd mind. I've gone on girls-only trips without my boyfriend several times and he hasn't had a problem with it, so if he wanted to go on a guys' trip, that would be fine with me. I might be a bit jealous if it was a destination I'd like to visit, but I'd never stop him. Actually, I like it when he goes away. It's nice having the house to myself and being able to watch and eat whatever I want!
angelinamichael angelinamichael 8 years
Last year, for my birthday, I flew to New Orleans with a handful of girlfriends to celebrate turning 27. My long-term boyfriend respects me enough to 1) let me enjoy quality time with my girls and 2) not get pissy nor want to tag along on a vacation that is meant for the purpose of female bonding. John Mayer is in a touring band. More often than not touring musicians serve as a family away from family. Certain bonds are formed when a group of people spend everyday together for months at a time. My boyfriend (of 5 years) is actually in a touring band. The fact that he goes away every now and then has served as one of the healthiest endeavors of my mid 20's. We are both incredibly independent people who love one another deeply, but don't need to be surgically sewn together at the hip to achieve some ideal unrealistic label of being in love. xo
lillis lillis 8 years
I wouldn't mind. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years, and only vacationed together once... I think it's very important that you remember you're still an individual even though you're in a relationship, and that you both do separate things as well as doing stuff together.
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i'm like would depend on circumstance, but since i would love to go on a vacay with him and we haven't been anywhere super substantial, i would like to be included!
nv27 nv27 8 years
I LOVE to vacation on my own or with girlfriends and actually my boyfriend loves it too. He's very productive when Im not around so if I go away for a few days he takes that time (& peace & quiet) to get stuff done without me distracting him. It gives us both a chance to relax and take a deep breath and appreciate eachother. After all, absence makes the heart grow fonder, right?
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 8 years
I wouldn't mind. Sure we are in a relationship together but can forget that we are individuals as well as, therefore we need that time alone. I trust my fiance to go on vacation without me. I recently went to Aruba with all of my girlfriends and we had a blast! I've already told her that this is a every year thing and hes ok with it. And to tell you the truth, it brought us closer together.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
I think the reason why I would be so against it is because we barely get to go on vacations in the first place. We go on little mini-weekend vacations every once in awhile but we haven't even gone on a big one together.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 8 years
Honestly I wouldn't mind. Me and my boyfriend have each taken our own vacays with our friends. No big deal.
sonya-ina sonya-ina 8 years
I'm married, so heck yes I would mind. Unless of course it was a special guys getaway, or he asked and I couldn't go because of work.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
Well if it was a "new" relationship then I wouldn't mind. But if it was my boyfriend and where we are now...I probably would!
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