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I Am Secretly Dating My Stepcousin

Group Therapy: I Am Secretly Dating My Stepcousin

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I fell in love with my step cousin when he stayed with my family for a month. We are not blood related in any way, but our families are connected.  We seemed to have this great connection right from the start. We seemed to understand each other completely, and became best friends in no time.  It became difficult for both of us to look at anyone else in a romantic light.

There are two main problems . . . first of all, our families have no idea right now and would not approve. Second, he lives on another continent, thousands of miles away. In order to pursue my love for him, I found a way to spend a few months with him by making up elaborate lies for my family. Being with him, I have realized that it will require a lot to make our relationship work. Despite that, he loves me like crazy and would do anything for me. I can't bear to see him upset at all either. But, I am very close to my family, and all these lies are really getting to me. I am not sure what to do . . . it will tear him apart if I were to end this relationship (and hurt myself in the process). But, I feel really anxious, fearful, and guilty because of all the lies that we have had to say to our families in order to be together.

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