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I Can't Get Aroused

I Can't Get Aroused

Dear Sugar
I can't get turned on. I've been dating this super cute guy who I have tons of fun with for about two months now, but every time we kiss/make out/touch I don't feel anything at all.

It's really weird. I've tried relaxing and thinking of sexy things that have turned me on in the past, but nothing seems to work. It's not just this guy, but this has happened with other guys as well. I'm afraid to have sex. I've never masturbated because I don't ever get the urge to since I never get turned on. I feel horrible and abnormal. What Could It Bea?

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Dear What Could It Bea?
Don't feel horrible or abnormal, you are not alone. In fact, according to the The Journal of the American Medical Association, a whopping 43% of women between the ages of 18 to 59 suffer from some type of sexual dysfunction.

I would ask you if you have ever been turned on by a member of the same sex, and maybe that is what is confusing you or making you feel less sexual, but that doesn't seem to be the case. You could very well have SAD - Sexual Arousal Dysfunction. If I were you, I would talk to a physician about've got nothing to be embarrassed about.

Sexual dysfunction is medical jargon that best describes those who have a: lack of or minimal desire for sex, arousal problems, or those who have trouble reaching orgasm. If you aren't getting blood flow to that area or any genital lubrication that could also be the problem. These issues can be fixed with meds or with
vaginal jellies, so don't let it get you too hot and bothered!

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