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Dear Sugar--

I'm lost. I just finished college and now have my first $30K plus BBA (bachelor's degree in business studies) at 31 years (sad but true); I'm stuck in a rut. I have about a 3.45 GPA or something...I didn't go to Stanford, Yale, Harvard, so no job offers are landing on my doorstep. I live in the middle of nowhere...seriously, NW Minnesota...middle of nowhere.

I feel lost. I think I should start studying for the GMAT and go back & get a Master's. I swear all the good jobs require an MBA or Master's these days, right?

I have tried looking in all the right places for a job, even a
telecommuting type job, and cannot locate anything. I'm 31, I have no kids, I have 2 cats, and I have a boyfriend whom I love so much that I stay in this piddly little town for his sake.

Do I accept the fact that I will be doomed forever to a life of misery and failure? Or does someone actually feel that life can sometimes be fair and I should be able to have both things I want? I feel like I've been wounded in a sword fight, crying my eyes out each night is not ideal. What can I do?

--Lost Linda

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Dear Lost Linda--

It may make you feel better to know that many people feel as frustrated and stuck as you do. It sounds like you are really motivated and want to fix this situation, so that's a great first start.

Getting your masters will give you a leg up, but keep looking -- there have got to be some jobs out there that pay more than $30K that don't require the degree. Talking to a career counselor might be helpful as well. They could offer suggestions as to what your next steps need to be taken in order to get a higher paying job.

I know you said that you love your boyfriend and want to stay with him, but your career sounds equally important, so have you thought about moving to the closest biggest city with him? Remaining in an unhappy job and town isn't healthy for you or your relationship, so explore your options, because you have some here - it just might take some time to make it happen. Good luck Linda.


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