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I Hate the Holidays

Sunday Confessional: I Hate the Holidays

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I know this is a time when I'm supposed to be celebrating and spending time with family. But my family is so dysfunctional I don't even talk to half of them. Seeing joyful families all around me just reminds me how messed up mine is. And there are places where people die of vaccine preventable diseases and malnutrition daily, and I feel like a hypocrite celebrating my abundance when there are so many living in abject poverty.

Thanksgiving is about celebrating the abundance the pilgrims found in the New World--to me it's kind of a slap in the face to the Native Americans whose ancestors' land was stolen. I'm not Christian, so I really don't care about Christmas. And every time I've tried to make NYE plans, they blow up in my face. I don't even try any more.


I pretend I care for the sake of the people around me, but deep down I hate this time of year.

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testadura67 testadura67 5 years
I think a lot of people end up disappointed by the holidays because expectations are too high. We all see these pictures and movies with happy families gathered around a big meal with a tree loaded with presents and it looks so wonderful. I can't count how many times I've heard friends and family say "Why can't we just put our BS aside for one day a year and just have a nice Christmas?!" We are who we are and it doesn't change for the holidays. That being said, do what makes you happy. If celebrating your abundance while others are getting by with so little, donate your time, money, or other available resources to others. If spending time with your whole family causes more stress than joy, skip it. Just make sure to make time throughout the year for the ones that you can have a good relationship with. The holidays aren't an obligation, much as many people like to think they are. But at the same time, don't begrudge other people the joy they take in the holidays. Like any other event you'd rather not attend, politely decline attendance and involvement. There's no need to spend the energy on resentment.
karlotta karlotta 5 years
How about volunteering during the season - since you seem to have compassion for those less fortunate, it would probably provide you with a sense of usefulness, and on top of that it would be a great excuse to avoid family commitments you'd rather avoid! And there's no spending a lousy New Year's Eve if you're taking care of underprivileged kids or feeding the hungry.
Gabriela-Une-Vie-Saine Gabriela-Une-Vie-Saine 5 years
I think the holidays are blown SO out of proportion that it's not weird to feel this way. Next year, maybe instead of focusing on the whole holiday season, you should try to avoid the malls and carols and only think about the message of the season on the holidays themselves. The spirit of the season isn't the problem, it's the way things have become so materialistic!
livinlife1985 livinlife1985 5 years
I feel ya....The holidays are supposed to be full of joy and love, but they mostly just end up being stressfull. The kids are really the ones who truely enjoy it, and that's what makes me put myself thru this crap every year!! Just wanted you to know your def not alone :) The holidays are almost over! you will make it...
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