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Sunday Confessional: I'm Crazy About Him, but He Has a Girlfriend

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I met this guy about four months ago and when we initially met, he told me he was in this on and off relationship, but nothing serious. His brother who happens to be my friend said he wasn't in a relationship last he knew. Well as at the time I met him I was roundin' up a relationship so I didn't really care.

One week into the relationship we had sex and things got a little intense and he said he wanted an open relationship apparently he and his girlfriend had gotten back together again so I said no and we stopped talking. A week after we started talking and we didn't talk about what he wanted and we were having so much fun. Great sex and everything. Weeks after we talked about us and he said I should be patient with him because he doesn't want the relationship with her again and he can't settle with her in the long run and he wants me for future and all but he's been with her two years he doesn't know how to just end it. And did I mention they practically live together? At least she stays there four times a week because of the proximity to her work place he says. I thought about it and I said OK, but a month plus or two into it we have become so close he's my best friend and all — we quarrel about it every time and I can't take whole thing anymore especially as things with them don't seem to be anything but fine and he chooses her over me on some occasions. This last week he said I should give him a month and we should just be friends for him to sort it out and then we can date fully — I wasn't happy about it I was sad and all. Then he came back again and said we can make it work if only I can overlook that she's there and we just enjoy. I don't know what to do advise pls. txxx

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angelneer angelneer 5 years
if this guy is named terry can you please message me
mrfeelgood mrfeelgood 5 years
I agree with Raynee ... this guy is just using you. Please dont type in slang it is difficult to figure out what you are saying.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 6 years
You are his f*ck doll, plain and simple. He gets to have his cake and eat it too....he stays in a "relationship" with his girlfriend, but gets to fuck you without any commitment on the side. Have some self respect and see this for what it is...a use.
nicole121482 nicole121482 6 years
He is playing you for a fool....get out now! Tell him you are done until he is single for real!!
bluestar bluestar 6 years
This guy is jerking you around...actions speak louder than words and obviously he's not leaving his girlfriend. If you're looking to be the person on the side, stay, but if you're looking for a loving, healthy relationship I don't think this is it.
ChrissyLee ChrissyLee 6 years
Why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free? Now I'm sure you've heard that one! He's not going to leave her and if he does, are you really going to be able to trust him? You're making it too easy for him to carry on both relationships. Time to move on, this guy is so not worth your time.
Raynne413 Raynne413 6 years
Drop him. You're his chick on the side, but he'll never leave her for you. Guys rarely do. And if they DO leave their girlfriend for you, they'll do the same thing to you when they find someone new they are interested in. And just another FYI, please don't type in slang. It makes it very difficult to read.
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