I have a guy friend who is I guess what would be called my "friend with benefits." We'll call him "friend A". We have had a friendship and casual sex relationship for about three years now. Neither of us have an interest in actually dating or being exclusive. We're really more friends and peers than anything.
I had noticed once before that his close friend and I have a lot in common, and I feel like there's been some resistance on his end because he might not know what's going on with me [and] "friend A." The more I see him, the deeper my crush grows. I find myself thinking about him non-stop for days after I see him. This past time, he had alluded to the fact that he is casually seeing someone but it's not serious. I fear that if I don't make a move soon, it could be too late.
So I guess my question is, what is the best and most respectable way to go about doing that without ruining my reputation in this group of friends? I'd like to talk to "friend A" about the situation and get his feedback on how it might make him feel, but at the same time, I want to be sure that it's even worth the risk of making things weird because like any girl, I wonder about being turned down. What if he doesn't feel the same way about me? What if that ruins my friendships?
So lost on this one . . .