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Insulting Women as Pickup Strategy

Group Therapy: Insulting Women as a Pickup Strategy

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After a particular encounter with a real jerk who works in my office I began to wonder if the neg-hit would work on men, too. For those of you who are unfamiliar with this term it's a scumbag trick where a man is a jerk to try and make you feel bad enough to seek his approval. A negative hit is an insult that is intended to bring a woman's self-perception more into line with reality. It's mostly used by so-called pickup artist lowlifes who want to try to lower a woman's self-esteem enough so that they actually have a chance of sleeping with her.

For example, if a guy that's hitting on you were to say, "Do you have highlights? I don't get why women ruin their hair with those streaks." This guy is purposely trying to insult you so you'll think, "What is up with this guy? He isn't falling all over me. Is my hair really that bad?" and try to make you self-conscious and simultaneously pique your curiosity. I've just been curious lately about whether or not this strategy would work on men too. I feel like if he's a cocky ass he'll be wondering why I'm not all over him like every other girl and become interested. I've never used a strategy like that but I think I'm going to conduct an experiment next chance I get out of sheer morbid curiosity. If it works I won't use this power for evil I swear! I'm interested to hear other people's opinions on this subject.


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