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Would You Choose Life Partnership Over Marriage?

It's easy for couples like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp and Vanessa Paradis to dodge the Hollywood divorce curse, because they're not even married! But despite their lack of legal status, life partners sometimes live and act like married couples so much so that even Johnny Depp forgets they're not married sometimes. In a new interview with Vanity Fair he said of Angelina, "Poor thing, dogged by paparazzi, her and her husband." His use of a marital title is probably just a slip of the tongue and not a hint that Brad and Angie are secretly married (although that would be a fun twist!).

When you're already dad and mom, maybe you don't need to be husband and wife. Children often guarantee a lifelong relationship and legal obligations to each other. And even if you don't have children, why do you need a piece of paper to prove your love? Well, obviously, the piece of paper means something, since many gay couples feel strongly about their right to the legal, financial, emotional, and societal privileges given married couples. And there's evidence that marriage makes you richer and healthier, although I'd bet living like a family could provide similar benefits.

Considering all this, do you think you'd be happier being life partners?

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Burkina Burkina 6 years
Its basically the same thing. The expectations in the relationship are just the same.
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
Marriage is important to me, I want to be married someday.
KeLynns KeLynns 6 years
I definitely want to get married. But I can see why some people would say "it doesn't change anything, it's just a piece of paper." Well, if that's really how I felt about marriage, then I would DEFINITELY get married! If it's just a piece of paper to you, and you really believe it won't change anything, then just get a prenup and go to the justice of the peace. Like you said, it won't change anything about your relationship. But there are other benefits - he can get on your health insurance. You can see him if he's in critical condition, and make decisions about his medical care if he's in a coma. If he dies you will get his life insurance money. If you're not married, it doesn't matter how much you guys love each other or how long you've been together - there are still some things that you legally cannot do if you are not his wife. Things that you will want to do in important situations like a medical emergency.
sourcherry sourcherry 6 years
I agree with Renees3. It's not true that there aren't legal complications if you want to leave and you're not married. If you really have a life together and a true commitment, you probably have assets together like a house, car, and maybe you even have kids... All the things that make divorce messy exist in a committed relationship too. I'm not talking about people that simply live together, that doesn't mean squat. For me there's commitment when there have been made life altering decisions together.
stylinfabqueen stylinfabqueen 6 years
I'd have a life partner over marriage because a spiritual marriage is harder to divorce from a "legal" one. Marriage has become such about vanity than about being in love. Too many people are getting divorce because they can and that's just abusing the system.
Renees3 Renees3 6 years
i think it's up to each person. I personally am getting married next year, because i think it's fun and I want to enjoy the benefits of being married. If you're wealthy you might not have to worry about health insurance and things like that, but we do. Also I want to say we've been together for 7 years, own a home together and have lived together for 6 so we both already feel like we couldn't just walk away. Really, owning a home probably has more legal ramifications that marriage does!
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 6 years
I agree with skg, for me personally marriage did change my relationship. Even though we were committed and living together after we got engaged, as soon as we got married the dynamics changed because the stakes changed. Like skg said, you can no longer walk away so even stuff that didn't even register on my radar before (like him leaving glasses around the house) suddnely mattered because I cuoldn't just walk away. Maybe some women have different experiences because they view marriage differently, but for us it was a big deal in our relationship even though we were already committed to each other beforehand.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 6 years
To me is the same. If you live with the person, share the problems and joy, etc. There is no real difference. Spacekatgal, what is the difference--except for the piece of paper-- from living together to marriage? I'm not against the institution. If I have a boyfriend who really wants to get marry, and we already live together, why not? There is no real difference. To me the commitment is what matters.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
I'm in a long term relationship and in no hurry to marry. I've never been able to picture myself doing so. If I do get married, it feels like I'd just be doing what everyone else expects of me. I don't feel like my relationship needs that kind of validation.
allex allex 6 years
I don't think it matters and that's jmo. I was married at a young age and divorced said i would never marry again. Didn't say i would not go into a partnership again. Anyway the wonderful man i met after being 7 yrs divorced wanted marriage b/c he had never been married before and it did mean alot to him and other personal matters between him and me.. We will be married 20 yrs this Aug. I am not sorry and our love just keeps growing but i still say if he /hubby didn't persist it doesn't matter to me . We would still be together with or without the paper. I read something i believe it was Angie (yes it was) that said she was married twice and it didn't mean security of staying together . Same with Brad being married once but they have often had ppl call them husband and wife and when ppl correct themselves it was Brad who said don't worry about it "It's all the same to us. Angie had similar words . they don't mind ppl calling them husband and wife. up to you.... They have made a lovely couple and i enjoy reading about them. It doesn't matter to me and is none of my biz whether they marry or not.
gummybears123 gummybears123 6 years
i feel like marriage is a wonderful tradition when it's done right. it's one thing to say you are committed but when you actually make the decision to marry, i think that that is a deeper level of commitment.
sourcherry sourcherry 6 years
For me it's pretty much indifferent. I never liked weddings and I'm not religious, so I don't think getting married would have any advantage. When it comes to finances, I'm a firm believer in what one bought is what one keeps, unless there's a legal document saying otherwise. Since this can apply in both scenarios, I don't really have a preference.
stephley stephley 6 years
Not marrying keeps you from divorcing, but as Susan Sarandon & Tim Robbins learned, it doesn't keep you together any more than marrying does.
tigr3bianca tigr3bianca 6 years
I got married young because I was pregnant and thought it was the right thing to do. After my painful divorce, I decided I don't want to get married. Not because I'm afraid of commitment but I realize I don't need a ceremony, ring, or piece of paper to have a committed relationship.
Studio16 Studio16 6 years
No. I would choose marriage any day.
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