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Ladies, It's Time to Pop the Question!

Ladies, It's Time to Pop the Question!

Supposedly an old British custom had it that women were allowed to propose on leap year day, today, February 29, and their object of affection wasn't allowed to turn to them down! Obviously in contemporary society, there are no written rules about female marriage proposals; however, while there are many notions of romance that have become somewhat old-fashioned in our culture, like saving ourselves for marriage, society still seems to think that it should be the man who gets down on bended knee.

Sure, there are many couples that reach a mutual decision on marriage, but when you hear about those grand or endearingly thoughtful proposals, it always seems to be the man’s doing. I want to know why ladies don’t plan romantic proposals for their guys. Or do they? Do you think that the male-only proposal is outdated? Would you ever be the one to pop the question?


Jacinthe Jacinthe 9 years
I saw a thing on t.v. today about the leap-year proposal thing. In Scotland, according to this program, the tradition was that on that day, a woman could propose to a man and he either had to say yes, or buy her a silk dress. This begs the question of whether or not women proposed to men they knew would say "no" just to get a new dress! To answer the question - if I ever get to the point in a relationship where I feel it's time to make the next step, I'm completely comfortable being the one to make the proposal. My mom was the one that proposed to my dad, she also made the initial advance when they first started dating, so I guess it runs in my blood. I'm fairly certain my guy would be okay with it. He's very aware of how headstrong I can be when I want to, and I don't think it would surprise or bother him in the least if, when we get to that point, I was the one popping the question.
omilawd omilawd 9 years I could propose to ANYONE, and they would HAVE to say yes... Haha, I find that a little creepy.
LadyAngel89 LadyAngel89 9 years
I dont mind the idea of women proposing, but I would be horribly afraid of offending my boyfriend if I was to. We've talked about our future together and it will come in time. He knows where I stand so all in due time I guess. Now I guess if it got to where I just couldn't wait anymore I wouldn't wait. And I probably wouldn't propose either, I mean why wouldn't he have proposed by then? Unless of course I couldn't wait after like a week lol
ii have no problem proposinq, its nuthinq
Meike Meike 9 years
I don't mind either way. My fiance and I made a mutual decision together to get engaged. Sure, it wasn't my idea of a romantic fairytale engagement with me sitting on a ferris wheel and he proposing to me as we watch the night stars. He's afraid of heights. It would have never happen, anyway, haha. An engagement is an engagement no matter how you slice it. You both love each other enough to want to get married.
shanimalcracker shanimalcracker 9 years
I am not against the idea of women proposing, but I definitely do not see that as the ideal situation for me. I still think it's part of the fantasy to have an adorable proposal to always hold dear.
Korsgal Korsgal 9 years
No way, I'm an old fashioned girl.
kch1223 kch1223 9 years
My fiance and I talked extensively about marriage before he popped the question, and I showed him a few rings that I liked. However, he completely suprised me on the when, where and with what ring. It was perfect, I am old-fashioned (and I was really happy afterwards when he told me that he had already asked my mom/dad and they said yes)
Random2 Random2 9 years
I asked my boyfriend once what his reaction would be if I proposed. He said he'd be ok with it, but would rather do it himself.
longhorn_sugar longhorn_sugar 9 years
february 29, eh? will definitely act on this myth TODAY
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
I, like others have posted, probably wouldn't actually do this. I jokingly just asked my b/f to marry me (he said yes btw) b/c of the whole Leap Year Day thing and then explained it to him. :) Also, my b/f and I know we are going to get married. We have discussed it and know that we are the 'one' for each other. I have showed him ring styles that I like. However, he will the the one who picks the ring out and surprises me with a proposal.
CoconutPie CoconutPie 9 years
I proposed. We're getting married in May.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I doubt I would do it. But I would think it was cool if someone else had the guts to do it :)
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 9 years
Ah, Kia, you beat me to it!
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 9 years
I think I could, but I'm not sure how much he'd appreciate it. It's been a huge part of our culture for men to propose, so even if it's a sweet gesture, he might not take it so well when he has to tell other people he was the one proposed to... Like it or not, it would make him look like he doesn't wear the pants in the relationship, you know? I mean... look at Luke in Gilmore Girls... Do I make sense here?
kia kia 9 years
I think it is rare to find a male that would be comfortable with a female proposing. Females do propose and men do accept but it doesn't mean that the guys is o.k. with it. In my case I would not have done that, my husband would not have been o.k. with it (even though he would have said yes) and we do consider ourselves to be a progressive couple.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
He better do it. I'm too old fashioned in this dept.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I never popped the question first. That doesn't align with my personality. Similarly, I never said "I love you" first either, even though I may have loved the guy. However, I did help pick the engagement ring. That's because I'm VERY picky about my jewelry. With my husband (the only man whose proposal I accepted), I picked three rings I liked. He made his final decision from those three rings, and the diamond carat weight. I didn't know which ring he picked (or the diamond carat weight) until he officially popped the question, and presented me with the ring. I didn't know when he would propose either. So there was an element of surprise for me.
Pistil Pistil 9 years
I wouldn't do it. But I do hope the feeling is mutual before anyone proposes to me. I always thought it would be the worst thing in the world if a boyfriend asked me to marry him, but I wasn't sure about it yet... awkward...
ElizabethRae ElizabethRae 9 years
I know a girl who did. If that's your thing, more power to you. I, however, warned my now-hubby that if ever let it get to the point where I got so tired of waiting that I just did it myself, I would be pissed! We talked about it and looked at rings together before, but he set up the whole proposal and it was a surprise. I loved it.
missbanana missbanana 9 years
lol. i think two people usually know if they want to marry eachother. its something that is usually discussed in a relationship.. if one half didnt even know it was coming then the relationship has some issues. either way, i dont think i could be the one to propose. and i do like romance and surprises. im a romantic at heart and everyone deserves their "kodak moment." its those types of memories that get you through the hard patches in the relationship.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Is this like one of those surprise birthday parties where the person knows it's coming, but still they have to act like, "oh, ME, you want to marry ME!! Who knew?" It just seems kinda contrived.
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 9 years
morganfay.... that's how my fiance and I did it....we talked about it and we were both sure we wanted to be together... THEN he asked me. duh. a guy doesn't ask out of the fucken crystal-clear blue sky. why would he do that? so, CAN be romantic AND a suprise.
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
Morgan- I agree...I am *really* surprised about some of the reactions to this. My boyfriend and I recently talked about getting married and decided to hold off for a variety of reasons, when we're ready I'm sure we'll book a flight to Paris or something to celebrate, but I can't imagine one of us just magically deciding it's the perfect time!
morganfay morganfay 9 years
The HELL? I'd be pissed if the dude just came to me, popped the question out of nowhere and expected me to be all smiles and agreement suddenly. This is one tradition I'll pass on. I'm not particularly hot on me proposing to him as a surprise, either. I'd want it to be something that we mutually agree upon. I kinda want to be part of the decision and not have my role reduced to saying *yes* or *no*. "The VERY idea"!
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