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Lied About the Number of Sexual Partners

Sunday Confessional: I Lied to a New Guy

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I'm dating a new guy and lied to him about the number of people I've slept with. He's a serial monogamist and I've been single for years. So I think it might shock him if he knew the truth.

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dahliadreamer dahliadreamer 6 years
Haha! I like Betty Wayne's response to this, and I completely agree! As far as just entering a relationship goes; you mentioned he's the 'new guy'. He shouldn't be asking those sorts of questions so early on in the relationship anyways! JohnnyBoy's reasoning is flawed in the sense that a girl could refuse to tell how many she's been with because: 1. She's embarrassed about her low number, or, 2. she's embarrassed about ehr high number. But guys wouldn't know that; they'd probably just come up with some stupid assumption as to whichever one they think it is. I say, if the insecure man you're with responds like JohnnyBoy, then get your beautiful rump out of there and find a man who will love you for you, and not for the possible STD's he might get from your imaginary number of men you've been with.
looseseal looseseal 6 years
Aw, we don't know the boyfriend asked and/or intend to judge her by the answer. To give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe it happened to come up in conversation. Of course, the wiser amongst us knows this is one of those stupid questions you should never ask, with other classics such as "Do I look fat?" With all that said, I think you ought to tell him the truth. Not because you owe him this, because you do not, but because you can tell a lot about a man from his reaction to something like that. You may not like what you see, but that's okay, it's early enough that breaking it off wouldn't be too painful. Or, maybe his reaction will pleasantly surprise you. Only one way to find out.
lickety-split lickety-split 6 years
Its none of his beeswax! :innocent: hope the number you gave was super low, lol. who is he to even ask???
GTCB GTCB 6 years
Hahaha, don't worry about it OP. Guys always assume girls lie about that. We really don't want to know.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
So let me get this straight Johnny... a girl who slept with 10 guys is not a cumdumpster because she had 10 fingers, but a girl who slept with 11 is? What if a girl has deformed hands and has 14 fingers, does that mean she can sleep with more people before she's a cumdumpster? Or a girl who gets her one hand chopped off, can she only sleep with 5? Yeah that all makes total sense. Numbers is a terrible thing to talk about, I think once you're out of your teens and early 20s most people learn that. Your boyfriend sounds like a square with an inferiority complex.
soozerella soozerella 6 years
Well I can assure you as a "cumdumpster" that if you are worried your new dude is going to react like JohnnyBoy, you shouldn't be having sex with him anyway. Mostly, because he is an ass but also he is obviously underage and you can go to jail for it.
sagagirl sagagirl 6 years
It shouldn't matter how many partners you had. Don't take it to heart if a man like that gentleman above calls you a slut. Little pee pee men usually react that way. The minute a man asks you how many partners you had, it means he is insecure and does not see you as an equal. He could use the std excuse, but we all know it just takes only one partner to give you a disease.
nikkisoda nikkisoda 6 years
Haha! I'm sorry, I have to laugh at the above poster. This is the exact insecurity that soozella is speaking of. If you think I am a slut because I do not care to say numbers than so be it. That is your opinion. =)
soozerella soozerella 6 years
yeah, it's none of his business how many people you have slept with. Pretty much anyone asking that question is just trying to feed their insecurities anyway. I don't even think it's worth confessing you lied over, because then it's going to turn into a big awkward issue. Just don't bring it up again.
nikkisoda nikkisoda 6 years
Ugh. I do not think numbers need to be discussed. When the last time you were tested and results yes. Actual numbers no. I think no matter what when you ask that question you will not like the answer. Now as far as the lying goes. You can confess to lying and tell him you feel terrible about it. You can explain to him that the number conversation makes you uncomfortable and hopefully he understands.
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