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Sunday Confessional: I Came Up With an Imaginary Boyfriend

This week's confession comes from our anonymous Confession Booth group in the TrèsSugar Community. Weigh in with your advice below.

I'm 21, a junior in college, and it seems like everyone around me is hooking up and/or falling in love. I'm so busy with classes and work that I don't have time to breathe, and when I do have some time off I'd rather use it to do something I enjoy instead of suffering through yet another blind date. I know my friends mean well, but they don't get that I'm not interested in a relationship at the moment. So to stop them from constantly asking me if I've met a cute guy, I made up a boyfriend.

His name is Chase and he is perfect for me. Good looks, smart, and as forward looking as I am. That's why whenever my friends want to meet him, he's always busy. Either in class or working or at his internship. That's how I've managed to go three months without my friends finding out. But then a month ago, I met this great guy in my English class and his name is Alex. He's adorable and he's everything that I made "Chase" to be except better, if that's possible.


My best friend saw me having lunch with Alex a few days ago and thinks that Alex was "Chase." She, of course, told all my other friends and now they are demanding to meet him. Accept I don't know what to tell Alex. I don't want him to think I'm a psycho chick with imaginary boyfriends, but at the same time I think I should tell him about "Chase" since it's bound to come up. And I don't know how to explain to my friends that "Chase" is gone from my life and Alex is in it.

Somehow in the process of making my life easier I think I complicated it more.

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searching-soul searching-soul 6 years
What's wrong with just saying I fibbed about Chase because you guy's were kind of being a pain in the butt about me being single, have a good laugh about it and move on? Then say as for Alex I don't want this to be a big deal so if I intro you guys please don't bring it up. If they are your real friends they will forgive you and you can laugh about it. If they are not, than good riddance. Also, don't let anyone make you feel like you have to lie like that again. Maybe it's time to start cultivating new friends if this group can't be more supportive of you and less judgmental.
mixedpie mixedpie 6 years
I'd just tell them that you and Chase broke up because he had too much on his plate to think about dating AND classes AND his internship and that it was good-terms break-up because you understood with your class load and you agreed to be friends (or you found out about his secret life partying and you didn't aprove). Something like that. Something to make it believable. Then talk about Alex. If you agreed with your friend when she mistook him for Chase, mention that you still have him on the brain sometimes and were confused.
Danny-Feekes Danny-Feekes 6 years
Prescription: See what Jan does with George Glass in A Very Brady Sequel.
snarkypants snarkypants 6 years
this is one of the weirdest dilemmas ever...
pink-elephant pink-elephant 6 years
I agree, dump this "Chase" perhaps with a sly, "It just wasn't meant to be." Then mention about how Alex is this cool guy from English class you've been seeing. On a lighter note-this actually sounds like the plot of an awesome rom-com! :D
shreerose shreerose 6 years
Ohmygoodness. I would never imagine that if someone did that that they would actually ever find someone ELSE to date! I pretty much agree with the following advice. Just tell your friends you broke up with Chase, and be on to the next! No big deal. Hope it works out for you! :)
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 6 years
lezlo lezlo 6 years
Say you broke up with "Chase" and keep going with Alex. I might keep Alex away from your group as long as possible? Your relationship with Alex is separate from the one with the girls. You are also in college, so honestly neither your friends, your lie, or your boyfriend should be huge priorities right now. Your foward looking goals should be :)
secondstar secondstar 6 years
I think the others hit the nail on the head. Just say you broke up with Chase, and this is a new guy you're seeing. If they ask why you didn't say anything, explain that you like to keep some things private and didn't want to talk about your love life. That might even help them learn to butt out.
Belle-de-Nuit Belle-de-Nuit 6 years
Start by paying more attention in that English class. It's "except," not "accept."
Rosay77 Rosay77 6 years
Yea, just say you broke up with Chase.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
Your friends sound way overbearing. They weren't satisfied with an "I'm not really looking or I'm perfectly content with my relationship status or can't a girl be single for a few months what business is it of yours", or if you must, "I always have a date for Friday night, but I'm not going to dish the details so I don't get caught in a lie later"?
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
I'm with Wild Mag on this one. Off topic but why are your friends so desperate to see you in a relationship? I mean my friends talk friendly shit about my perpetual singleness but it's not bad enough to make up a boyfriend! Either your friends have boundary issues or you need to learn to stand up for yourself!
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 6 years
Can't you just say you've dumped Chase and that Alex is just a cool guy from English class you've been hanging out with? If that's not going to work, I guess you'll either have to come clean about the whole thing or just dump 'em all like GTCB said!
GTCB GTCB 6 years
The only clean way out of this is to say you've dumped everyone! Might as well get it over with now rather than later.
looseseal looseseal 6 years
I'm with Wild Magelet, tell them another little fib and be done with it. It was really none of their business in the first place. To be honest, I've totally thought about doing exactly what you did to get "well-meaning" busy-bodies off my back. And your story confirms why it's not such a great idea. But don't be too embarrassed, you're not the only one who comes up with this kind of idea. Hee.
pax4pax pax4pax 6 years
Just tell them that you hadn't used his real name to protect his identity.
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