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Making a Pros and Cons List in a Relationship

Puzzling Out a Relationship's Pros and Cons

I opened my in-flight magazine on a recent trip to find the crossword puzzle and cartoon page covered entirely by a list, with "Susan" on one side and "Les" on the other. Someone had obviously been weighing the pros and cons of two women — very thoroughly.

Under Susan are such pros as "sex is damn good" and "good cook," while the Les side says the sex was just "adequate" but that she's an "excellent cook." However, Les's extensive cons — including "not ecological" and "tech disaster" — suggest that Susan wins. Too bad the answers to this puzzle aren't on page 100.

I've weighed the pros and cons of a relationship before, but I don't think I've gone so far as to make a list — and it's certainly never been so urgent that I had to use the pages of an in-flight magazine! I've reproduced the list below for your voyeuristic pleasure, so check it out — it's quite entertaining. Meanwhile, tell me, have you ever made a pro vs. con list when choosing between two people or trying to decide whether to stay with someone?



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Bridey123 Bridey123 7 years
THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS!! I love it. :) A real window into someones mind. I did the same once (write a list) though it was for why I should or should not stay with a current boyfriend. I simply couldn't figure out if our time was up. I did a list and saw the cons out numbered the pros two to one. Guess I'm a visual person.. It worked.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
Hahaha, this is hilarious. I love random finds. I was studying in the library once and a note fell out of a book I was using between two women. They were discussing (via writing notes as if they were in middle school) about their divorces & dating prospects.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 7 years
I should do this...and NOT leave it where relationship bloggers can find it. :D I'm pursuing three guys right now, all of whom I have about a snowball's chance in hell with, but it would be interesting to put everything down on paper.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
Have done this with a single guy, not comparison. It actually helps when you write it out, because once you start writing, things flow out of you that were buried or that you were in denial about, and then you realize that you are dating a selfish douchebag. Nothing is quite as glaring as looking at a con column three times longer than the pro column. Funny that he puts his dog over sex...don't know if that itself is a pro or con. Also, can't believe a guy mentions cooking at all....what it this, 1957?
inlove23 inlove23 7 years
I've done this before but not between two people. I'm a visual person so it helps show me everything stuck in my head.
brindey brindey 7 years
Skigurl, that was the first thing I noticed! I love how his dog is literally the first thing he considered.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Lwim, I immediately thought of Friends, too!
partysugar partysugar 7 years
I've done this, I love making pro and con lists, but I always do it in my diary and not someplace where someone could find it. Crazy Tres!
lwimbush lwimbush 7 years
Ross did this in Friends...Rachel "just a waitress"
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
I think Susan is the obvious choice. I've never done this to compare 2 people, but I've written detailed pro/con lists about one single guy
KadBunny KadBunny 7 years
Ha :P Since SATC and watching Miranda weigh the pros/cons on Steve (she did this on the show and the movie right?) I've always thought about doing one. We're always doing it mentally anyway; I think we'd see our relationships in different light. For better or worse. Between two people though?! Ahh funny. He certainly makes Les sound like a bit of a dumbass. "Have to explain too much"? :P Great clothes though!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
Les doesn't really like dogs, and rarely takes the dog for a walk...I think the choice is obvious here! LOL I love that you found this! Anyhow, I've never made a list but I've weighed pros and cons in my head too...but probably not when deciding between 2 guys, rather deciding about just one guy.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
I've never made a list, but I weighed the pros and cons in my head, although not really in such a conscious, obvious way.
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