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Male Birth Control Pill

Has Anyone You Know Tricked a Man Into a Baby?

Maybe I'm naive. Maybe I don't know enough married people. Or maybe women really just don't talk about it. But do reasonably sane women deceive men to get pregnant? Because Daily Mail writer Leah Hardy says the downside of a oral contraceptives for men is that women won't be able to trick men into having babies.

While the male pill is currently only in trial use, Hardy says forget about the do-you-trust-him question and worry about the now-he-can't-trust-you problem. A male pill "could mark the end of the very common phenomenon of the not-entirely-accidental-surprise baby and the one-bottle-of-wine-too-many baby, which happens to the most sensible of couples," she writes. "Because, let’s face it, if all women had to wait for men to feel broody (and for this to coincide with his jab wearing off), the birth rate would drop like a stone."

The logic goes — not mine — that women see children as permanent and men as temporary, which may be true, but who would want to bring a child into the world like that? Do you know anyone whose surprise child was no accident?

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Jake2010 Jake2010 6 years
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
When I was on the pill I set my phone alarm to ring at the same time everyday to remind me to take it. But anon 42 if you've been on the pill for 9 years and still can't remember it, I think it's time for you to try a new method of birth control.
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
I know a few people who get the shot (once every 3 months I believe) and a few who use Nuvaring (wear for 3 weeks at a time). Check it out.
runningesq runningesq 6 years
Exactly, Danakscully. Also, Anon 42: If you have trouble remembering to take the pill.. THEN USE A DIFFERENT FORM OF BIRTH CONTROL! They exist! Missing a few days often does not make for effective birth control.
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
Anon 42 - If YOU don't want to get pregnant, then refuse to have sex if he won't wear a condom. Conceiving a child isn't something you blame others for, but it's 50/50, you're equally responsible if it happens. If you do get pregnant and his family says anything, just flat out say "He's just as responsible as I am, he refused to wear condoms." A suggestion for remembering to take your pill: Put it in with your makeup if you wear it. Or put it next to your deodorant, moisturizer, toothbrush, put a reminder on the fridge, something. Something you use/do everyday. I used to miss a few pills now and then, but I got into a better habit when I put it in with my makeup.
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
and my story came from my friend, so i'm pretty sure it's accurate. but thanks for your vote of confidence tary.
kh61582 kh61582 7 years
I have a feeling my best friend did this. She had been seeing him for eight months and only a week or so before she told me she was pregnant she was telling me that she thought they weren't going to last much longer. She's flip flopped on whether she was on birth control or not. She's made some remarks that sound like she did it on purpose and then others that suggest she was totally surprised. I think she just doesn't want to tell me the truth for fear I'll think less of her. Truth is, while she is my best friend, I don't approve of her situation and I do think she did it on purpose out of a lack of self-confidence.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
For your information, tarynitup, my story didn't come from a friend of a friend of a friend, it came from a daytime talk show. Much more reliable, right?
tarynitup tarynitup 7 years
I'm surprised by how many of these "stories" of women who did this sound like gossip and hearsay. I've never known someone who did this but I know a few stories about women who did this. Just as I know stories of women who are so slutty that they did the whole basketball team. And I know stories about people who did LSD and thought they were an orange. All of these stories are absolutely true because a friend of a friend actually knows the people that did these things!!! For real!!!
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
Haha, socialbeachgal, that's a good point ;) I think a male birth control pill s an absolutely amazing prospect on one hand, but on the other hand... women are the ones who can actually get pregnant. This is an absolute worst case scenario, but what if you were raped? I'd be more comfortable knowing I might be preventing pregnancy in that situation by being on birth control.
socalbeachgal socalbeachgal 7 years
I don't know if I could trust a man to remember to take a birth control pill, most of them can't remember to pick up their least, I would know if I took the pill or not.
PrincessLtrain PrincessLtrain 7 years
Does it count if she faked a pregnancy and then mocked up a sonogram?
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
^^ That's always worrisome when 2 BCs fail. Easy to doubt whether both were used properly or if it was sabotage. I think Maury Povich and his DNA and Lie Tester test are in order here :p
Soniabonya Soniabonya 7 years
Yay for a male pill!! I suppose it's less invasive than snipping it, but the latter would be more effective since you might forget to take a pill. Word is that one of cousins got wrangled in because of a pregnancy. They have a cute kid, but he feels like he was forced into the relationship. The girl's nice but when both condom and pill don't work?? Hmmm.
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I agree, Juicebox07. I think a lot of unplanned pregnancies are not caused by true birth control failure or one partner being devious, I think many people just don't care enough to protect themselves. I love Maury Povich paternity shows, they're so addicting, and some of the girls on there even say "You know it's your baby, we didn't use protection!" Why the heck not? Then they go on to test 10 other men who they had unprotected sex with over a 3 week period. People in monogamous relationships do it too, both people don't say "Hey, lets use a condom in addition to your pills so we don't have a child." All 3 of my siblings did this too (no protection AT ALL), as did my cousin (twice), neighbor, a few friends. Personally, I think these people all wanted children, it's rare that kids aren't planned (as in, people really truly tried to prevent it). Anyway, I've never had anyone personally tell me they tried to trap their SO with a child, but to be honest, it wouldn't surprise me. I don't see how that could ever turn out good, kids are one of the biggest stresses.
juicebox07 juicebox07 7 years
While I don't agree with women doing this, has anyone thought about the man's responsibility? If a man absolutely does not want a baby, then he needs to wrap it up, honestly. If the man doesn't wear a condom, and the woman is supposedly on the pill, then he's leaving all the birth control up to her. Sure, he might trust her, but it's still taking a chance. I'm on the pill, and my boyfriend doesn't wear a condom. He doesn't want a baby either, yet he takes no responsibility as far as birth control goes. Though I would not go off the pill without telling him, there have been times when I've missed two pills in a row, or took a pill late. He knows about that, yet he doesn't do anything to help remind me to take my pill. He leaves it up to me. I guess what I'm saying is that men need to take more responsibility if they really don't want a baby. I think this male birth control could be a good thing.
runningesq runningesq 7 years
I can't believe that anyone - man or woman - would do this. The decision to bring a baby into this world is one that should be made jointly. And this: "Because, let’s face it, if all women had to wait for men to feel broody (and for this to coincide with his jab wearing off), the birth rate would drop like a stone." isn't true for me, and it's not true for many of my friends.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
I saw some talk show years ago on this subject. A 15 year old girl poked holes in her condoms with a pin because she was trying to get pregnant. Anyway... VICTORY! I've been keeping an eye on the development of the men's pill and am SO happy to see it's in the trial stage. I've tried both the pill and the shot and they both made me crazy and emotional and fat. I'm sick of messing up my hormones for him, he needs to start messing up HIS hormones for ME.
boredgourdless boredgourdless 7 years
#22, my husband has no desire for babies. And neither do I. I don't know anyone who has had "accidental" pregnancies, but I do know people who have had children to save their relationships. And that never works. Stress + more (baby) stress =/= everlasting happiness.
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
Because of Australias "Baby Bonus" (also known as the Plasma Bonus) so many women are tricking men into babies so that they can collect the $4k. These women think that its so much money, but it barely covers the medical expenses. Many women do it to fund their drugs habits too.. :( Personally I can't wait for the male pill to come on the market, so many men can avoid being screwed over.
inlove23 inlove23 7 years
Heidi on the hills tried to trick Spencer. But Spencer is a douchebag.
jocupcake jocupcake 7 years
I've never seen this happen in real life. I have however seen facebook ads promoting tricking your boyfriend into marrying you by getting pregnant. It was pretty horrifying.
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