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Married Couples Living Apart a Few Days a Week

Would You Like Regular Days Off From Your Relationship?

Could living apart three days a week be good your relationship? People married to pilots and firefighters probably hope so. In SATC 2 Carrie Bradshaw considers this unorthodox arrangement to keep some sparkle between her and Big, and writing in the Daily Mail today, one real-life wife says it worked for her.

After 10 years of living together, the writer says taking a few days apart gave her and her husband the breathing space they needed to remember why they liked each other in the first place. They spent every Wednesday, Friday, and Sunday apart for 15 months — which allowed less time to bicker, more time to enjoy their hobbies, and a chance to appreciate the things they had previously taken for granted.

Of course you could always take the experiment a little further, like 20-something couple Zoe Lister-Jones and Daryl Wein, who stayed together on "on days" and were free to sleep with other people on "off days." They figured an open relationship was better than a boring relationship, but eventually they went back to less emotionally draining monogamy.

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skigurl skigurl 7 years
No, I agreed with Charlotte in SATC2 - I don't see the point of doing that because you can't pick and choose days to be "married"'s a lifelong commitment That said, my bf works out of town a few days every week and I'm home alone and it's nice to have time to spend with friends, do stuff around home, spend time alone...but do I ever miss him and am so glad he's home at the end of the week! It just makes me appreciate him more. And in a few months, he will be finished with this job location, so we won't have days apart anymore, which is fine by me!
b1uebunn b1uebunn 7 years
I think it's ridiculous. Doing some of your own hobbies for a few hours sometimes? Fine. Dinner with some friends without the spouse even once a week? No big deal. Entire days scheduled apart? Why even bother being together?
socalbeachgal socalbeachgal 7 years
I wouldn't want an open relationship but sometimes I think it would be nice to have some "me" time, no worrying about the husband or kids.
kimmieb124 kimmieb124 7 years
I would not want to spend three nights a week apart from my husband. If I wanted that much time away from him, I wouldn't have married him. We've been married for 5 years and I'm still in love with him. Throughout our relationship, we very regularly have our own time and do our own things, but I like that we both return to home base at the end of the day.
Pistil Pistil 7 years
I love having my own time and space sometimes, from family, friends, boyfriend. It is absolutely necessary for my sanity. Though I don't know if moving out is necessary, and I'd never try an open relationship.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 7 years
I think it could work. I don't know if I would enjoy it but I could see it keeping a spark.
boredgourdless boredgourdless 7 years
The couple I work for have a relationship where they spend at least two weeknights apart from one another. They have two homes, so one goes out to the second home to work or do upkeep while the other is at the main home with the children. Or they may retreat to the second home with a friend to just spend some time relaxing. It works for them, though I doubt it would work for my husband and me.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
In a word: No.
Lyv Lyv 7 years
That's messed up that you'd have to ask permission to go out and do stuff without your partner. Or that you felt you HAD to do it a number of times every week to save your relationship. Just plain weird, to me. As for open relationships - I believe those could work. Except it's not an experiment or a game. I think it's about freedom and trust and respect, not "on and off days".
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
Time apart is a good thing, but to me, if you're going to spend three days a week pretty much pretending that you're not in a relationship...then just don't be in one, period. Different strokes for different folks - it's not my thing. I like living with and spending time with my long term boyfriend...he's my best friend, I don't need any days off.
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