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Men Sleep Well Next to Their Lovers

There is nothing like the feeling of cuddling up to a warm body at night. It makes me feel cozy, safe and deeply relaxed. Spooning has got to be one of my top ten favorite things to do. When I get used to sleeping next to someone, I have a hard time falling asleep when my bed is empty.

Apparently men like sharing a bed too. A recent study discovered that men sleep better when they are lying next to someone they are romantically involved with. On the other hand, women who share a bed slept worse than when they slept alone. This may have to do with the fact that historically, women are lighter sleepers since they were the ones who took care of the babies. Men sleep more deeply and are also more likely to be snorers.

This study may explain why an estimated 23% of American couples sleep separately, which I thought was pretty shocking. I would have assumed that many more couples slept together.

What about you? Do you sleep better alone or when you share your bed with your lover?


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allien86 allien86 9 years
I love sleeping next to my bf. But I probably sleep better when I'm alone as I'm not awakened by his moving around or getting up.
Camarogirl67 Camarogirl67 9 years
If women sleep lightly because they're supposed to get up and take care of the baby - wouldn't this be a constant even when they were sleeping alone? It doesn't explain why they sleep worse when their partner is in the bed. I need space. I know I sleep better when I'm alone because there's more room to move around. My bf is too broad shouldered, dammit.
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 9 years
lmao! I sleep so much better alone and he sleeps better with me in the bed. cuddling before we fall asleep is nice but once im knocked out...get away from me!! lol
ginghamgirl ginghamgirl 9 years
i can't sleep without my boyfriend by my side! it's frustrating because right now, we're on a LDR coz i'm back at home with my folks and i refuse to sleep on my big old bed. i declared for myself a bed-strike and i have been sleeping on the living room couch for the last month or so... and i refuse to sleep on any bed unless my boyfriend is there to spoon me to sleep. haha, i know, it's pathetic...
lady-T lady-T 9 years
i slp better alone also.i'll start off spooning but once ive fallen asleep i push him away(so he's told me) :)
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I sleep well with my boyfriend. Sometimes he tosses around a lots but I am getting sued to it. I have to go to bed by myself though and he will come to bed later, so I get to sprawl out and get comfy to get to sleep. But I definalty feel more secure with him beside me :)
crazibabi12388 crazibabi12388 9 years
i think i sleep good either way, but maybe better with my boyfriend cuz i slept with him the other night and we went to bed at like 3 am and i woke up at like 7 am, and i felt soo refreshed it was weird lol, i love sleeping with him =]
yoan190 yoan190 9 years
I definitely sleep much better when I share my bed. In fact, I almost couldn't sleep when my husband isn't there. The bed feels so cold, somehow. Yeah, strange, I know.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
We both prefer sleeping together than apart. We've said that we actually get a better night's sleep when we sleep in the same bed... it's really nice. Sometimes I fall asleep in his arms when I'm not even tired to begin with just because I'm so warm and comfy! =)
designergirl designergirl 9 years
I sleep so much better with my boyfriend. I always feel safe and warm, and if I have a bad dream, its great seeing him there when I wake up.
Muirnea Muirnea 9 years
I LOVE sleeping with my guy!!! :) hehe, I like this topic. :) I sleep about the same either way, as in I can get to sleep and get rest, but I do feel very lonely, cold, sad, etc. without him . And I'm much less relaxed without him, he makes me feel safe. :D
LittleLady12 LittleLady12 9 years
I love going to bed with a guy and I love waking up with a guy, but that's where it ends! It's hard to fall asleep cuddling with someone... I can get used to sleeping next to someone eventually, but forget about cuddling. I need my side of the bed!
Marci Marci 9 years
I love sleeping with my fiance, and sleep very peacefully. When he's out of town on business, I'm a restless sleeper and don't always realize right away it's because he's not there. But when he's back, we rub feet and I'm gone. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ!
scoop45 scoop45 9 years
Nothing's better than cuddling with your better half! Lol
sarah-lynn sarah-lynn 9 years
my boyfriend does not have the best time sleeping. at the age of 22 he still gets nightmares, and unrestlessly tosses and turns. while this makes it difficult for me to sleep, i would sleep even worse without him.
mrspiven mrspiven 9 years
i sleep better alone, but i fall asleep better next to my guy.
jhuck jhuck 9 years
I sleep better when I'm with someone. When I'm alone I toss and turn for a while whilst wishing I had someone to spoon with.
ImJessica ImJessica 9 years
I sleep much better alone... I'm a very light sleeper, and I tend to have bad insomnia at times so any little movement or sound wakes me up.
veronicaraye veronicaraye 9 years
I think this is true!
Cycy Cycy 9 years
My boyfriend lives in Denmark and I Norway so we spend four days together every two weeks. The days after we've been visiting with each other are usually the worst for the appetite and sleep. We both eat really little and sleep restlessly after we've been visiting. I sleep way better with him than without.
ma9321 ma9321 9 years
I LOVE sleeping next to my husband even though he snores REALLY LOUD!! I think i've gotten used to it because it doesn't bother me anymore.
Amanda-La Amanda-La 9 years
I love how happy sounding everyone is when they're posting about sleeping next to the person they love. awww
Amanda-La Amanda-La 9 years
I sleep like a rock till my hubby gets in bed but there's not really anything I love more than sleeping next to him. I think that picture is so freaking cute! I think it's adorable that guys sleep best next to their lover. That's beyond sweet.
pinkflake2 pinkflake2 9 years
Eternity- my boyfriend and I are on completely different schedules...he works nights while i work days, so he stays up much later than i do. Unless I have a stressful day the next day, he usually comes to bed later (as opposed to sleeping at his place) and then I wake up...and to add to it, he snores!! haha, i choose them well.
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