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Michelle Obama on the Cover of Glamour, Quotes From Interview

First Lady Offers First Rate Advice

For its annual Women of the Year issue, Glamour made Michelle Obama the first First Lady to grace its cover. The issue honors Michelle for her commitment to mentoring young women, and the First Lady shows off these mentoring skills inside the magazine, where she offers readers advice on life and love. Here are some excerpts:

  • On how it's important to invest in yourself: "I have always tried to put my kids first, and then. . . put myself a really close second, as opposed to fifth or seventh. One thing that I’ve learned from male role models is that they don’t hesitate to invest in themselves."
  • On what to look for in a partner: "Cute’s good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it’s, Who are you as a person? Don’t look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul. . . When you’re dating a man, you should always feel good . . . You shouldn’t be in a relationship with somebody who doesn’t make you completely happy and make you feel whole."

Do you think Michelle offers some solid advice?

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KadBunny KadBunny 7 years
Oh how I love that woman. I don't claim to be the most selfless person ever but I always tend to think other people's happiness = my happiness. It can be really draining though; I should listen to that advice. And CG, now that you mention it, it is kinda insect-like.. still beautiful and interesting though. I've had it with cookie-cutter poses.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 7 years
Am i the only person who thinks that pose makes her look insect like?
sidra5397 sidra5397 7 years
Solid advice from Michelle... and poster, Chrstne.
Kimpossible Kimpossible 7 years
anonymous on post 11, I tend to agree with you on the part about being with a man who you can be yourself with. I used to think that I needed a man to be whole. It wasn't until I married my husband that I realized I was already whole without him, but it was funny because I felt more independent with him than without. He helped bring out the real me, the strong me and I'm grateful. I am absolutely whole without him, however, I am better with him, and he'll say the same thing about me.
cupcakers cupcakers 7 years
gradschooldiva09 gradschooldiva09 7 years
Well said, Chrstne. You brought up some wonderful points. :) I think that FLOTUS Obama looks beautiful and radiant. I have a great deal of respect and admiration for her as a person and as a First Lady.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
I love the make-up and outfit! As for the advice, I think it's a little trite, but still true, except for the comment about being with someone who makes you feel whole. I've always taken exception to that oft-repeated advice because I feel that you should be able to feel whole on your own.
Studio16 Studio16 7 years
Love the outfit and makeup, not so much the hair. Ah, well. She really seems like a wonderful lady. Such a class act.
Beauty Beauty 7 years
That's a gorgeous cover — just so festive and strong. Her advice is smart, too. You can't be a good partner/worker/whatever if you're constantly putting everyone else's needs first. When you take care of yourself, you'll be able to take care of others better, too.
Chrstne Chrstne 7 years
I absolutely love her. She is one of my favorite people of all time. Anyway, a lot of women should read this and take it to heart. Before you were a girlfriend, a wife, a mother, an engineer, a soldier, etc., you were just you. It seems like women so easily forget about themselves when there are so many other people and things to think about. However, it's very true that you cannot take care of other people if you can't take care of yourself. Other people should never be forgotten, but you have to look out for number one. It sounds selfish, but it doesn't mean if a bus was coming towards you and your baby, you should leave your kid and run for safety. Situations like that, where you would literally give your life for someone is very different. But if you don't take care of you, if you don't build up your self-esteem and all of that good stuff, what are you really giving to people around you? A mother will unconsciously teach her kids to be the same way as her, so if you're the type who is always feeling like crap because you gained 40 lbs, you affect other people. A wife will be insecure and that insecurity can ruin relationships. There are so many scenarios where how you take care of yourself can totally change the world around you. I try to be this way. It's very hard for me, but not so hard for my boyfriend, who tends to be like every male and thinks about himself first. Growing up, my mom was nearly totally selfless when it came to my dad. She never put herself first under any circumstances. She lost all self-confidence and self worth. Since I was always witnessing this, as I got older I thought putting yourself first was so horrible, and any loving, caring, person would think of people before themselves. I am glad I discovered that this is not true at all. It's unhealthy to put yourself last. Like I said, it's hard...but I am getting better.
gd101 gd101 7 years
she looks beautiful!
krrobi krrobi 7 years
She has such Class!!
Kimpossible Kimpossible 7 years
I like her too. Which is funny I didn't like her at all when Obama was campaigning, something about her rubbed me the wrong way. I'm glad to see that I was wrong. And I'm so glad that she is speaking up about the importance of putting yourself higher on our list of priorities. We as women tend to take care of everyone else first, I suppose it's that inherent nurturer in us. It took me until I was 40 to finally realize that by taking care of myself first I can better take care of my family and those around me. It's like the whole air mask thing on airplanes and how they tell you to put your own on first before assisting someone next to you, it makes alot of sense.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
I love her.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
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