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Michelle Williams in Vogue: "Become the Man You Want to Marry"

Michelle Williams: "Become the Man You Want to Marry"

"'Become the man you want to marry.’ I’ve taken that on. What qualities do I find attractive, and can I find them in myself? What am I missing? Can I be that for myself?"

In the October issue of Vogue, Michelle Williams paraphrases Gloria Steinem's quote "we are becoming the men we wanted to marry." Maybe it's the lilting rhythm, but we can't help but hear echoes of the famous Ghandi quote "be the change you want to see." Put those two together, and Michelle may have just dished out the best relationship advice I've ever heard.

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nyxmoxie nyxmoxie 7 years
I disagree. You can't become the man you want to marry, that's why you date different people to find out who you want to be with and what kind of man you want to be with. I agree that you need to be happy with yourself first before you can find happiness with a man.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
GlowingMoon, I disagree that they are two separate issues. I don't think anyone can expect to have a healthy relationship with others if she is unhappy with herself. However, I feel she is talking about self-development. I don't know why you would feel sorry for someone who wants to take traits she finds desirable in others (be them kindness, compassion, ambition, etc.) and work on establishing those traits in herself. :shrug:
Kimpossible Kimpossible 7 years
I like it, it's deep and insightful. I think too many people, women especially, think they "need" another person to be complete, to be happy, to help provide for them. I think it's important to find that peace, happiness and fulfillment within yourself first, then figure out if you want a partner to share your life with, but then it will be for better reasons other than "I need someone".
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
I'm in the minority here. I feel sorry for Michelle. As a woman, there is no possible way for her to "become the man you want to marry." That's absurd, and she's setting herself up for disappointment. Perhaps she's talking about self-development -- being complete and whole?? If that's the case, that's a SEPARATE issue from marriage. Self-development is an individual, personalized process. Marriage is about choosing a compatible mate/life partner. Two separate issues. Perhaps that's her problem -- she amalgamating the two issues into one.
Lavinie Lavinie 7 years
wow! i had never thought of it that way... it's a really good quote.. i love it!
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
That's a good advice.
Pistil Pistil 7 years
To find someone you love, you've gotta be someone you love
WritingLikeCrazy WritingLikeCrazy 7 years
The only scary thing about becoming the person you want to be with - which is the best advice I've heard all year, by the way - is when you actually meet the man you want to be with. Is he going to think you're too much woman? I want to believe men are really looking for their equals, but boy, have I got my doubts! Meanwhile, I shall continue to become...
McSquish McSquish 7 years
Interesting. I was just told this yesterday by my friend. She said to me "you are becoming the person you want to be with" and that's nice to hear and now that I think of it, it is true. I think Michelle Williams gave great advice.
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