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This or That: Mistress or Mister?

You've noticed that your boyfriend's acting strange lately. You've never been paranoid, but you find yourself wondering if he's cheating on you. One morning he tells you that he's not feeling well and is going to stay home from work.

You decide to check on him during your lunch hour. You call his cell, but he doesn't answer. You assume he's sleeping, but you decide to drop by anyway just to make sure he's okay. When you come in, he's walking out of his bedroom in a towel, fresh from the shower. He's surprised to see you, but not in a good way. When you look into the bedroom, would it be worse to . . .

See a gorgeous woman primping in the mirror? You recognize the smell of her perfume; it's the same scent you've been smelling when he meets you late for dinner.

Or . . .

Get a glimpse of a handsome man sitting at the edge of the unmade bed, lacing up his shoes? In fact, you recognize him; your boyfriend introduced him as a friend a few weeks ago when you ran into him at a coffee shop.


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lms lms 9 years
I would prefer it to be a woman. I would be annoyed but I wouldn't be jealous or feel inadequate. Alot of times when men cheat is has nothing to do with you and alot to do with them.
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 9 years
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I'd much rather have it be a woman. If he was still attracted to women than there is a way we could get past this. If he was gay he obviously wouldn't want to be with me and that would be much worse than cheating, especially if it's a one time thing with this woman.
gidigirl gidigirl 9 years
Woman..without a doubt. Walking in on someone that i'm intimate with and seeing a man.. would definitely have a HUGE impact on future relationships. The fact that my "GAYDAR" failed would disturb me to no end.. That was a joke:)..(Gaydar is not an absolute science!!!) I would worry about what else i missed and second guess every past and future intaraction i have with a man..
chakra_healer chakra_healer 9 years
The man. It would just make a more entertaining story for my BFFs. He would join the rest who refer to as "do you remember the guy who...".
tglynn tglynn 9 years
Ha ha! I voted for a man! I totally agree with ashcwebb on this one!
Meike Meike 9 years
Man. Like many others have said before me, he would have sought something I could not give him. My sense of self-worth as a woman wouldn't be hurt. Either way, I do not tolerate cheating.
omilawd omilawd 9 years
I'd be upset either way, but I'd rather have him cheating on me with a guy than a girl. If he were cheating on me with another girl, I'd feel even more inadequate than if it were with a guy.
emalove emalove 9 years
I'd be devastated either way.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
haha after i clicked this i realized i'd prolly have "that" bc well ive already been cheated on with women...a guy would be a first ;-)
Well, it would be worse if he was with a man. What a total sham. Either way, gross... I love how someone above said that they hoped he wasn't the type to fool around with someone with some crazy STD. That's so stupid! Like you can tell by looking at someone they have an STD. That's why it's dangerous to hook up with random people, cuz sometimes the prettiest girls, or the hottest guys, are the one's with the funky disease to spread to you! My mom used to tell me about the girls who used to come into the pharmacy to pick up their STD meds, and it was never the average looking, or ugly female. It was always the drop-dead gorgeous girl who could, and did, sleep with any guy she wanted...
Matdredalia Matdredalia 9 years
Well, being polyamorous, this situation doesn't really apply to me because as long as I knew it was going on, things would be okay. However....if we were monogamous, it would be worse to see the woman. With a man...well, that is something I can't give him. And that leaves possibilities know...other things. *grins*
Marci Marci 9 years
Either way, the guy's screwing around with someone else. Being cheated on is being cheated on, be it with a man, woman or sock monkey.
Pistil Pistil 9 years
I think I agree with Glowing moon. Tough question.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
seconded, Glowingmoon!
bellaressa bellaressa 9 years
Well, he could have asked you to wear a strap on. LOL But, whatever floats his boat, I would be pissed anyway. At least with a man I know that it's not about me but about him and his lies.
annebreal annebreal 9 years
I said the man because there'd be a better sense of closure at least. Not so much with the "what did I do wrong??" stuff. I know exactly what I lacked. A penis.
heineken67 heineken67 9 years
Just because you found him with a guy wouldn't necessarily mean he was gay. It could mean he's bi and or just experimenting.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
holy sh*t....none of the above plz .. O
erratic-assassin erratic-assassin 9 years
LMAO, I voted to prefer him being GAY...I totally agree with LeLuxe. Plus, if I was married to him, that means he loves me to some extent, right? About the whol STD thing, I guess I would just hope that he was kind enough to not do stuff with someone who wasnt infected with crazy shit. If he was gay, and without me knowing, I'm sure there would be a dry-spell in our relationship leading to the truth about his orientation. "you little slut!" lmao
arlyle arlyle 9 years
either way, its bad news
clareberrys clareberrys 9 years
agree with aschwebb 100%!
k8-rckstr k8-rckstr 9 years
I agree with what SillyBecky said
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
I would rather see him with a guy. At least I know I am the only woman! haha. No but really, if he was gay, hey, whatever. Good bye!
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