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Model Envy

Dear Sugar
I couldn't wait to watch this year's Victoria's Secret Fashion Show. They always put on a great performance and I love watching the glamorous girls in their fabulous lingerie on the runway. However, when it comes to watching it, I felt like I did when I caught my ex cheating on me.

I get that gross nauseated feeling in the pit of my stomach...yet I am unable to turn away. Those beautiful women do quite a number on my self-esteem as I know I could never be as beautiful as them. Am I taking this too seriously? Uptight Ursula

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Dear Uptight Ursula
It's not abnormal to feel inadequate when comparing yourself to a supermodel but try to remember these women do not look that way fresh out of bed. Supermodels, actresses and TV stars are paid to look beautiful. Not only do they have a team of specialists to primp and pluck them to perfection, they also have the benefits of airbrushing and professional lighting to make them look all the more perfect.

The Victoria's Secret models prepare for months to hit that highly publicized runway and work their butt off, literally, to get fit and toned. Some women are genetically blessed with model bodies, but even they have their own insecurities.

Don't be too hard on yourself, we all wish we could have a body like the leggy and lean Gisele Bundchen, but the truth is we have to make the best of what we've got. Please also try and remember that beauty is only skin deep! If the show makes you feel that bad, opt for skipping out on tuning in next year.

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Lila-Fowler Lila-Fowler 10 years
Ha ha good insight about the chicken cutlet bra fillers, Honeychild.
Lila-Fowler Lila-Fowler 10 years
Wow, all these comments are really insightful. It's really quite tempting for normal ppl to think that models are born with it, or born with something that can be worked with. But yes, it is a part of their job to look good. And it's quite the thankless job-- you're tossed out after you reach 25. And stereotypes of these models abound. As Miranda in SATC says, "They are stupid and selfish and should be shot on sight." I don't say we should hate models because they are beautiful. But we have to realize how much work it really is.
JK-Boogie JK-Boogie 10 years
Ursula...I modelled for a year and hated agent was contently telling me to lose weight and when I was 19 I was a size 2.... :? They also could not decide how to market black woman with long wavy hair or Alek Wek...scary, hard and bald....thankfully they went for the former Naomi and I got to keep my own hair. It is not as glamourous as it may appear.....look at Naomi...bitch from hell who had a drug habit and is universally hated....then there is Kate Moss...also a drug addict....then there are those 2 girls who starved themselves to death....those girls deal with rejection everyday....being told they are not good enough when many of us would kill to look like them....they also have to deal with people thinking they are stupid, pieces of meat and sex objects....see these are all the reasons I got out of it when I had enough. What I am saying is All that Glitters is not Gold
Honeychild Honeychild 10 years
sorry I wrote SHOE- it should be SHOW! lol
Honeychild Honeychild 10 years
First lilxmissmolly is correct. A while ago I read an interview with Tyra Banks and she spilled the beans on being a VS model. Yes, they are covered head to toe with makeup. Second, those runways have very special lighting that will make anyone illuminate beauty. Third of all, one month prior to any shoe or shoot they have to do this rigorous diet which will make anyone shed pounds like crazy. NO BREAD,NO Alcohol, NO Spicy Food,NO SALT,Packaged Food, no tomatoes, no sugar no carbonated beverages. They live on broiled chicken with spinach and protein shakes for about 3-4 weeks. Going to the gym 2x a day with a trainer. Does that sound appealing? It is crazy but they get paid millions so for them its worth it. OH and lastly even though they are full breasted they use the chicken cutlet bra fillers to enhance their cleavage.
Ms_Magnificent1 Ms_Magnificent1 10 years
Don't take it seriously sweetie. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, you shouldn't beat yourself up b.cuz you don't look like Giselle or Heidi! Just focus on you and what works for don't have to be 5'10 and weigh 120-130 pounds to look hot! Also have fun with your own style too...
lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 10 years
As a model myself, I think you should know the following: those girls are covered head to foot with makeup. Yes, head to foot. You'd be surprised at what shadowing can do to make your body look 10x better. Also, they are born skinny and you see them as beautiful, but most models (including myself) would oftentimes rather be 5'6" and 135 pounds. Why? Because when you're especially tall, or have large eyes, or protruding cheek bones, its great on the runway, but in high school for example, you get teased endlessly. Also, agents are brutally honest and hold nothing back. They'll tella ninety-five pound model she's too fat, or one six feet tall that she's too short. They'll walk up to you, say, "Hey, how's it going? You're getting flabby around the waist-line." Be thankful that you a gorgeous girl who has friends who love you! Remember, too, that, despite what it may seem, what really shines is personality. If you walk with confidence and think that you're beautiful, and love yourself, then it is guaranteed that other people will think you're beautiful and love you. ~* “I think the thing to do is to enjoy the ride while you're on it.” -Johnny Depp *~
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