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Modern-Day Gentleman Characteristics

12 Marks of a Modern-Day Gentleman

Yesterday model and newlywed Lara Stone told the Daily Express that her husband, David Walliams of Little Britain, is "a proper gentleman." Not something you hear much call for today.

Being a gentleman can walk the fine, Chuck Bass line between sleazy and smooth. What was once considered gentlemanly could now easily be a universal turnoff. So what is a 2010 gentleman made of? Here are 12 traits to start.


  1. Read the news today: We know he was on the Internet, but can he talk about the big stories? A modern-day gentleman can.
  2. Doesn't overuse Facebook: I wouldn't go as far as Christina Hendricks and say he shouldn't have a Facebook account (they're kind of an obligatory), but he also shouldn't be updating it like a 16-year-old girl. True for Twitter too.
  3. Dresses up without borrowing: He may need to rent a tux, but other than that he's ready, pressed, and set for any occasion.
  4. You can take him anywhere: Whether it's to an art opening or a bar closing, he knows how to act, dress, and circulate at (nearly) every occasion.
  5. Recommends books: He not only reads, but he has an opinion on what's good, what's not, and what you'd like.
  6. Tips well: If you can't afford the tip, then you can't afford the dinner. A gentleman knows this, and he will not try to weasel out of it.

See the final six below.


  1. Pays you back: Nothing should stop him from paying you back, especially if it's a large sum. Not even a breakup!
  2. Doesn't talk about exes: Unless you ask him (and do you really want to?), he doesn't talk about his ex-girlfriends. Especially by obliquely referring to them as "friends"!
  3. Can cook dinner: Really, it's not that hard. It doesn't have to be amazing or gourmet or even in season; it just needs to be, well, cooked.
  4. Holds the door: It may sound old-fashioned to the point of passé, but it's one of those small gestures that's just better off done. If he does it, we notice; and if he doesn't, we wonder why.
  5. Is kind to women — and men: Kindness knows no gender, and he knows that. If he's nice to only ladies, then he's in it to win them. And, he'll always lose.
  6. He's not perfect, and he knows it: With this list, we're not saying a modern-day gentleman is made of perfection. We don't want to live with that, and we certainly don't want to live with a man who believes it.

What did I miss?

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bluerose462 bluerose462 7 years
Ha-Ha! I think this is wishful thinking.What era are we living in.This is a very good post, but I have hard time believing that in this day and age there are men out there that have even half of this list under their belt I don't know how many UN-lady like instances I see everyday in public. Half the kids, teens, and adults out there are rude and have no manners. So to think that there are young men out there who possess these qualities is a bit far fetched. I think we as a society need to work on our manners. PS. The job thing matters but really? In this Crappy Economy? Don't count out guys who are hard workers but got a lay-off.
mletrav mletrav 7 years
I feel so lucky... my boyfriend is/does all these things... swoon!
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
Facebook is not obligatory....gimme a break.
janneth janneth 7 years
I like 2 and 10.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
SKG I don't think joblessness is a sign of nongentlemanliness. If I met an unemployed guy who was in all other ways not screwed up I wouldn't mind paying for an occasional date until he got back on his feet. Definitely not anything serious though. #7... does a gentleman ask a lady for $$$$ in the first place? And anon #3 I agree 100%.
idanceinmycar idanceinmycar 7 years
Similar to #11, is kind to your family and respectful of your parents.
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