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Muslims, Marriage, and Reconstructive Hymen Surgery

All it takes is about $3,000, a semicircular cut, and 10 dissolving stitches for European Muslim women to get their hymens restored and keep new husbands happy by appearing to be virgins as a result of wedding-night blood.

One doctor interviewed by the New York Times said:

If you’re a Muslim woman growing up in more open societies in Europe, you can easily end up having sex before marriage. So if you’re looking to marry a Muslim and don’t want to have problems, you’ll try to recapture your virginity.

So what kind of problems do these modern Muslims face? Recently a French court upheld an annulment of a marriage that was founded on a lie about the bride's virginity. But now, under the pressure of secular critics, the justice minister, Rachida Dait, has changed her mind and granted an appeal. We'll have to stay tuned to see how that goes.

When women can appease their husbands by creating faux virginity with a medical procedure, it demonstrates how nominal virginity can be. But, to some this deception might be unforgivable deceit. Do you blame these women for getting this form of plastic surgery? Do you think the annulment would have been granted if the husband had lied about his virginity and the woman brought the case?


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crazymarcy crazymarcy 8 years
i m from different culture and my future husband is muslim 2 , but being from a different religion i dont know if i have to respect his religion 2...has anybody any ideas ???....what about if the woman is not bleeding in the wedding night ? it happens , and then the husband will think she wasnt virgin . haa??
NYFashionista NYFashionista 9 years
Bengalspice- thanks for your perspective! I've been dating a (somewhat religious) Muslim guy (for several years now) who has taught me otherwise (in regards to premarital sex). I suppose many people can interpret their religion differently. I agree with your second paragraph. I too am originally from South Asia and realize that forced marriages are a cultural thing.
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
There are many religions that frown upon premarital sex ... but cultures that follow Islam sometimes take it too far. Islam also preaches that individuals have a right to be happy and satisfied in life. A woman shouldn't become an outcast because she found happiness in another relationship before she finally married. Premarital sex is an issue when determining the legitimacy of the bloodline. Most Muslim families don't want illegitimate children trying to take claim of family inheritance [all cultural instances and not a religious thing]. I also think many people have a misconception about arranged marriage in Islam. Islam states that a man and woman may choose who they marry. Parents have no right to choose and enforce their children to marry. Parents who pressure their kids into marrying someone the family approves of are going against what Islam preaches about marriage. It's another instance where the regional culture is manipulating the religion to fit their needs. The community is allowed to introduce prospective matches, but never to force someone into a union.
chanka chanka 9 years
chanka chanka 9 years
chill chill ppl ..u just hav to do deal wit some different stuff like this even if its gross or wtever its like wtever
gabiushka gabiushka 9 years
Hello! not wanting to be disturbed while watching sports is a minor subject so it doesnt matter if you agree with your partner or not. I know I would not have married someone whose break point was if I am a virgin or not, and since to these women that wasnt too important since they didnt wait after marriage...well I would think of finding someone that agrees with that philosophy. Thats just me...I am very happy with my life.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
hate to break it to the dudes, but girls can bleed even if they arent virgins......
NYFashionista NYFashionista 9 years
I know I'm joining this convo late- but Bengal Spice if you're still reading! I just had a quick question - "not because these women are putting themselves through this because of some idiotic cultural belief [not religious at all]" what is the idiotic cultural believe? I'm pretty sure Islam does preach not to have sex before marriage? Which in that case, I do understand why these women have to go through this. Wish I could say it's easy to just go ahead and marry someone a little bit more liberal- because when the parents/family have so much input in who the daughters (and sons) marry, there's little room for that. I do agree though Bengal about the notion of forgiveness. Interesting how we only follow that which is most convenient to us/serves in our best interest huh?
Meike Meike 9 years
I find the deceit that these Muslim women resort to sad but understandable. It sucks that men of their culture aren't held up to the same standards.
harmonyfrance harmonyfrance 9 years
GROSS!!!! :sick:
LibertySugar LibertySugar 9 years
Good point, janneth.
janneth janneth 9 years
fuggit about eet. we are not gonna change their culture or religion.this new surgery helps the women get what THEY WANT. Is there no feminism in that?
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
Wow this saddens me that so much emphasis is still put on women's purity and not on the men's.
mondaymoos mondaymoos 9 years
There are a lot of things my bf and me had different levels of importance on, gabiushka. That in and of it self doesn't mean you're doomed. I, for example, prefer not to communicate during football unless it's a commercial or during half time... he could care less about football.
chanka chanka 9 years
these are customs so i kno they are different and gross bt customs of countries shudnt be the same really so theres nothing wrong of it 4 being different
gabiushka gabiushka 9 years
Well, I think the women willing to do it are a bunch of hypocrites. I dont see how their marriage would work if they marry someone that obviously doesnt share their phylosophy: their virginity is more important to their husbands than to them (whether we agree or not) they would just end up with miserable lives...
UnDave35 UnDave35 9 years
That's ok. Since you've got a good avatar, that's all that matters :) :evil:
em1282 em1282 9 years
Mannist! ;) (I don't know all the fun emoticons on here, so I can't do a little fun face dancing around or anything...I'm boring with my :)s and ;)s...:()
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