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My Balding Boyfriend Needs A New "Do"

My Balding Boyfriend Needs A New "Do"

Dear Sugar
My boyfriend is a wonderful man. He is sweet, loving, and handsome, he just happens to be losing his hair. Instead of just buzz cutting it he has grown the top a bit longer then the sides and pushed it back trying to attempt to cover the area. Not quite a Donald Trump comb-over but a full on "comb-back"!

I love him and don't want to insult him but he is aging himself by ten years and he is only 32. I know my girlfriends snicker about it and I really don't care what they think, but he just does not look as good as he could.

How can I suggest hairstyle improvements to him without hurting his feelings? He is so sensitive about his hair. It's in the same realm as calling a girl fat. We are going away to a beach in three weeks with friends and I am just embarrassed for him. Am I being really insensitive? Should I just live with it? Somewhat Superficial Sonia

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Dear Somewhat Superficial Sonia
Something you should know about guys is that hair loss is probably the one thing that causes them more anxiety than anything else. Imagine looking in the mirror to find a receding hairline or even a small patch of hair that is balding? It can have quite a dramatic effect on a man's confidence level. For some, it can even lead to depression.

However, if there is anyone that can talk to him about this it's you; just be mindful of his feelings. Imagine if he suggested that you make some changes to your appearance? That could be a tough pill to swallow. If you want to gently appoach him with some ideas, try showing him a few pictures of men's haircuts that you like and that you think are attainable for him.

See how he reacts and make sure not to push the envelope. Hopefully, he'll engage you. If not, let it go and tell him that you love him. It's critical that this doesn't seem all that important to you.

If all else fails, you could secretly talk to his hairdresser and have him make alternative suggestions. Your boyfriend is probably holding onto the last of his hair for dear life until he faces his inevitable and permanent buzz cut.

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georgie2 georgie2 10 years
I must be a terrible person to go out with. I'd have just told him that he looked silly with a combover and demand he shaved his head...
Faye16 Faye16 10 years
Yeah, I don't like bald guys, but just shave it, like someone said it's better than looking at a balding head.
siouxsie siouxsie 10 years
shave it...and for fun..maybe he can get a swell dragon tattoo on it like that model...
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 10 years
Great answer, Dear Sugar. Jennifer76, I completely agree with your PS.
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
no doubt!
JennaV JennaV 10 years
A shaved head looks so much better than a balding head.
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
LOL, sounds to me like you 'really DO' care about what your friends think..........girl if you're cool with it, leave it alone, what exactly do your so called friends that 'snicker' at your man contribute to your life? If it bothers YOU or HIM, then go to a hairclub thing.........what's the big question here!?
Lakey Lakey 10 years
I heard that balding men have more testosterone in their system, hmm ;)
audreystar audreystar 10 years
the comb over is not a good look. i think men should do the close shave and just be done with it.
KimmiAnn KimmiAnn 10 years
I agree with Jen...Vin Diesel is an option too! My dad went bald at an early age and did that whole combover lame thing. It was suggested that he'd look very sexy if he went all buzz and so he did. He looks younger to me! I love it! Believe in Magic!
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
Excellent advice from Dear! Maybe rent The Transporter and note how much you like Jason Statham's hair. It hardly looks like he's balding! :D P.S. If there ever comes a time when he makes a suggestion to you, think back to this and don't get defensive.
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