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My Boyfriend Always Lies

"My Boyfriend Is Always Lying to Me"

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I've been seeing this guy for over a couple of years and I have begun to catch him in a lot of lies. I found out he lied about his age, he said he was 31 when he is really 37. He said his mother lives in PA but come to find out she lives in the same building as he does. He said he doesn't talk to his ex but I found a secret facebook page while using his laptop and he has continued to keep in touch with her, there are also a lot of messages from various women on his page. When I confront him, he acts as if I am crazy and makes up stories as to why he lied about things.

The lies have progressively gotten worse, he tells me he will be out of town for business and yet I see "going to the movies with xx xx" but xx xx live in town so I'm not sure how that is possible. What's worse is that he tells me he is too busy to hang out but then we hang out in his house I find movie stubs laying blatantly on his dresser on the day that he said he was busy. I have also found women things (bobby pins and hair scrunchies on his bedroom floor) and I haven't used bobby pins in years.


He said I'm acting dramatic and a friend of his tells me that he considers us as not seeing each other anymore. When I asked him if it was true he was said yes. I don't know what else to believe but I do know that if he was interested in me he would be honest. He now says he doesn't know what he wants and for me to give him time to think about us and where he sees us. I told him I deserve honesty and I don't feel safe with him lying to me. We haven't spoken since. Was this his way of ending things with me??

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subliminalseduction subliminalseduction 5 years
I wouldn't give him half the chance to end it with you, I'd end it myself. This guy has absolutely no respect for your feelings. Certainly, we all tell little white lies, but other women, the weekends out, secret Facebook pages... you don't need that kind of thing going on. Not to mention, why would he lie about where his mother lives or his age, totally irrelevant information? This guy sounds like a pathological liar and a cheat. I would end it myself, because he'll convince you that you're overreacting when you're in the right. Don't let this guy take advantage of you and don't worry if the door hits his ass on the way out.
lickety-split lickety-split 5 years
i bet he comes back for another round. help her stay strong and stay away from him. jez, LOSER.
JessicaM25 JessicaM25 5 years
This is my cousin's post. She used my account to post it. @Sourcherry from what she told me. A friend of her boyfriends approached her asking why she was sticking around if they aren't together anymore. She had no clue especially since they were still going out and doing all the bf/gf stuff. Sorry had to defend her! lol and yes things are over between them. I just wish I didn't have to see her cry as much as I do. :(
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 5 years
I was reading this like "he's a creep, he's a creep, he's a creep...." and then you said "a friend of his tells me that he considers us as not seeing each other anymore. When I asked him if it was true he was said yes." Soooooo basically he told you you're not together anymore? And you're on here wondering if it's over? Yes, it's over. Move on. Don't get me wrong, he sounds like a total loser, but the last paragraph here makes me wonder if you're the type of girl who won't "let" a guy break up with you. Either way, I definitely think you could use some time to work on yourself and gain some self respect.
nicole121482 nicole121482 5 years
Yes, he does not want to be with you anymore...and thank god! He sounds like a total loser and just did not have the maturity to end it. Bigger question is, why on EARTH would you want to be with someone after catching him in so many some self-respect woman!
hilberkl hilberkl 5 years
Yes, be done with it! I went through the same thing. Lies about the little most stupid things, with the first one being about his age! He thinks that if he lies he will avoid a fight, but it only makes it worse! It's immature and will most likely never change at his age.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 5 years
How the hell did you end up with him for over a couple of years? He's a huge liar, get out of this relationship.
Gabriela-Une-Vie-Saine Gabriela-Une-Vie-Saine 5 years
He's a loser, and you're better off without him. Trite but true. 37 and still playing those kinds of games? Find someone who's honest and treats you the way you deserve!
Pazuzu Pazuzu 5 years
Yup I agree, he wont call you, he left. And thank goodness! He was a creep and a jerk and a scumbag. You should definitely get tested because he was probably sleeping around. The next time you find out a guy lied like he did leave immediately! It'll only get worse.
cutiepie012 cutiepie012 5 years
Yes he is done, as much as this might hurt you he DOES NOT deserve you. Did you honestly want to stay with a guy like that? He lies constantly! Thank goodness he ended it and you aren't stuck int he relationship still all confused and hurt. Please take this as a learning experience and move on to find someone who is worth your time. He obviously didn't think you where worth his don't give him any more of yours.
henna-red henna-red 5 years
Yes. He's done and thank the gods he's out of your life. No one needs that kind of bs. Go get tested for stds. He's a cheater, and a lier, you need to be safe, get checked. And you don't need for him to be interested in you, he's a scumbag. You need for him to be gone. Good lord, read your post. Would you start a relationship with a man when you knew these things about him? Why would you want to continue one? Respect yourself enough to be glad this is over. Be glad he's moved on, he's now some other woman's problem, one he was cheating on you with. And pray for the other woman because he won't treat her any better than he's treated you. Yes, he's gone. Be glad, get tested. Be safe! blessed be, bestof luck
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