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My Boyfriend Missed Our Anniversary

Dear Sugar
My boyfriend and I had our one year anniversary yesterday. I've been looking forward to our special date all week long and the day came and went and he never even called.

When I think about it, he's been calling less often over the past month. I don't know how to handle this. I know I need to talk to him, but I don't think that I could handle him breaking up with me. What should I say? Nervous Nori

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Dear Nervous Nori
Why do you think he's going to break up with you? I think that you should just call him and wish him a happy anniversary. You have to be prepared for the worst, but don't be a nervous wreck on the phone by assuming anything. Sometimes guys don't really care about anniversaries and maybe it wasn't nearly as monumental for him as it was for you.

Keep in mind that the worst form of torture is silence. So stop playing games and call him to see what's going on. Ask him if there's anything that you should be concerned about because you aren't feeling all that secure about your relationship right now. You deserve to know what he's thinking.

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Adriana42 Adriana42 10 years
me and my boyfriend had to make one up because both of us forgot the date :/
Faye16 Faye16 10 years
I'm probably stupid enough to forget my anniversary! This year, me and my boyfriend both got the date wrong, haha! I thought it was August 15th, he thought it was August 16th and it turned out to be the 17th! On the 16th, he gave me pressies, I opened them, then we learnt it was the wrong day, he was sooo disappointed that he gave me them on the wrong day, aw! :P
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 10 years
Speak to us oh wise one...very true!
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
i don't think i would be interested in being in a relationship where the other person had a breakdown over a certain "day". the celebration of your relationship is either on going or it isn't. why would flowers and dinner out make anything right, or a lack of acknowledgement mean "omg! it's over". maybe he has more gorwn up things going on in his life than worrying about the 1 year anniversary of the day you met. like say, job worries, health concerns, etc. stop wondering and ask him if he'd like to celebrate the past year with a special dinner. either way you'll have you answer.
leslieroses leslieroses 10 years
forget this M/f bit*h... done over, complete. my absent minded man has NEVER forgotten the day he met me b/c i was all he every dreamed of. don't you want that?
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
Guys suck at getting dates right he may have it wrong lol just talk to him GL
honey31 honey31 10 years
Thats men for you well most of them that is lol.
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
good advice DS*
kimber097 kimber097 10 years
boyfriends may for get things like that but for me its different if my husband forgot our anniversary he would have been in a hole lot of trouble men shouldn't forget a day when the most wonderful thing happend to them you came into their life so just hope and pray that if you some day marry this guy he dosent forget your wedding anniversary...
karmasabitch karmasabitch 10 years
LOL Jen!! That's entirely possible! I agree with Dear too. Call him and find out what's going on. The worst thing you can do is sit there and worry.. nothing good can come of it! Take a deep breath and try to calm down, and then give him a call to wish him a happy anniversary and ask him if everything is OK. Good luck! :)
blOndiE7 blOndiE7 10 years
lol jennifer!! I'm the one that tends to forget that kinda stuff!!
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
Heh heh heh, for all you know he called up his best friend and said our anniversary just went by and she didn't say a thing - she didn't even call me!
Starbrite Starbrite 10 years
Guys aren't that big on anniversarys and he might remember it but think it's next week or something. He might just have a lot going on at work or with his family and has a lot on his mind.
sweet-pea sweet-pea 10 years
I always forget ours. I'm okay with birthdays, but stuff like that slips my mind. Mr. Sweetpea keeps track of that for me, because he knows that I'm little Ms. Scatterbrain. I wouldn't read too much into it, some folks (like moi) just need a gentle little reminder about these things.
Pinkperfectpixie Pinkperfectpixie 10 years
I agree with Dearsug not read to much into are men and they forget things like him, but do not be needy, keep it light, ask your questions, but don't beg and plead!
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