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My Ex Is Abusive

"My Ex-Turned Friend With Benefits Has Become Abusive"

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My ex and I became friends with benefits after we broke up. As of right now I don't have any more feelings for him but I also don't feel the need to continue any sexual relationship with him. I have told him this and he refuses to let go.

He has begun becoming scarily verbally abusive and gas-lighting things. He makes me feel like I am going crazy. Saying things I didn't say and claiming I did things I never did. He exaggerates a lot of what was said and feels that I am now "obligated" to continue our sexual relationship.


I would love to be friends with him but now I feel he is showing me Cybill and I don't deserve that. He knows I want to be friends and continues to tell me that if we don't continue that we won't be friends and that he will be "done with me."

How should I handle this?

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