I'm 16 and I just moved to LA from the Midwest. I was walking around Melrose one day with a neighbor friend I had made and got an invitation to a postcard party. I asked a girl at school what this was about and she told me it was a "flyer party" which basically means a teenage drug and sex party. I am terrified. No one from my hometown has had sex yet and I am still a virgin. Is this what goes on here and am I going to be expected to have sex if I go? I desperately want to fit in, but I know I'm not ready for sex yet. The most I've done is tongue kiss a boy that I dated for 6 months. Petrified Polly
Dear Petrified Polly
Not everyone at these parties is having sex, but the majority of them are having oral sex. If you're not ready for all of this, then don't go to the party. Stay strong and hang out at places where you know some of the people. I know you are new to town - you should try to join a sports team or an after school activity you are interested in if you want to make friends. These sex parties are the newest kinds of raves, where teens have access to all kinds of drugs, alcohol and empty houses. They are getting to be so mainstream that Tyra Banks just did an episode on her talk show about flyer parties on May 4th. Stick to your values. Sex is personal and sacred - don't fall for peer pressure just because you are the new girl in a very fast town.